- The Female Gaze Does Not Exist? – I think my frustration also occurs because decrying terms like “porn for women”, “female friendly” and “the female gaze” (however flawed they are) can have the effect of denying straight women their own space in the pornosphere. As I said in this post two and a half years ago, these phrases are about creating a space in an overwhelmingly male-dominated industry.
- How to get birth control privately when you’re a teen & keep condoms from breaking | Scarleteen – To review, you are old enough to seek health services at a clinic and obtain hormonal birth control options without parental consent, for potentially reduced cost. Plus, we had a bonus discussion about correct condom use because it is important to keep on protecting yourself against STIs even if you have another method of contraception, and condoms make a great birth control backup if something goes amiss with your other method.
- Gmail Gains Delegation Feature: Who Wants To Answer All My Email? | Techcrunch – By way of a new feature in settings, you can grant another Google account holder access to your email account. This allows another person to both send and receive emails on behalf of your account.
- It is not just violent clients who hurt sex workers | Audacia Ray | Guardian.co.uk – In Uganda and many other countries, they are denied access to HIV treatment, stigmatised by authorities and brutalised by police
- Transsexuals Are Edging Into the Mainstream – Is 2010 the Year of the Transsexual? – NYTimes.com – Not since the glam era of the 1970s has gender-bending so saturated the news media. The difference now is that mystery has been replaced with empowerment, even pride.
- Sarah Mei » Disalienation: Why Gender is a Text Field on Diaspora – The “gender” field in a person’s profile was originally a dropdown menu, with three choices: blank, male, and female. My change made it an optional text field that was blank to start. A wide open frontier! Enter anything you want.
- Why you shouldn’t give to the Salvation Army this holiday season | The Bilerico Project – While many think of the group as just another charity, in truth the group is a religious sect that is notoriously anti-gay; you shouldn't give to the Salvation Army this holiday season if you support gay rights.
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- Keep Your Passwords Private–and Handy–With LastPass – PC World – To guard against password thieves, I use LastPass. The tool offers a free password-managing add-on for Firefox on Windows, Linux, or Mac OS X; Internet Explorer on Windows; and Safari on Mac OS X.
- How to Use Twitter Lists To Create Reputation Management Problems – So why did I do it? To show you, twitter, and Google how allowing user-generated pages on authority sites that are page rank black holes is an incredibly bad idea.
- YouTube – Violet Blue on Oprah *finally* – Violet Blue and Oprah discuss pornography and women.
- Uganda considers death sentence for gay sex in bill before parliament | World news | The Guardian – But within Uganda deeply-rooted homophobia, aided by a US-linked evangelical campaign alleging that gay men are trying to "recruit" schoolchildren, and that homosexuality is a habit that can be "cured", has ensured widespread public support for the bill.
- 20+ Brand New and Incredibly Useful WordPress Plugins – Nettuts+ –
- 10 Things You Must Do Before A New Site Or Blog Launch | Spyre Studios –
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- R-Wipe & Clean – CNET Download.com – We like this system-cleaning utility's feature set and flexibility. Naturally, R-Wipe & Clean can erase your browser's cache, cookies, temporary files, and typed URLs. In addition, you can securely delete any file via the right-click menu in Windows Explorer. You can perform common system deletions as well, such as emptying your Recycle Bin and erasing your Clipboard history.
- They Shoot Porn Stars Don’t They | Words & photos by Susannah Breslin – A photo-and-text essay on the adult movie industry and the recession.
- Want To Break Up? Tis The Season, So Better Hurry : NPR – It's not just turkeys that get nervous this time of year. Chances are high that a failing relationship will also meet its end during the holidays. That's because it's not just turkey season — it's turkey drop season.
- The Complete Guide to Google Wave: How to Use Google Wave – The Complete Guide to Google Wave is a comprehensive user manual by Gina Trapani with Adam Pash. Google Wave is a new web-based collaboration tool that's notoriously difficult to understand. This guide will help. Here you'll learn how to use Google Wave to get things done with your group. Because Wave is such a new product that's evolving quickly, this guidebook is a work in progress that will update in concert with Wave as it grows and changes. Read more about The Complete Guide to Google Wave, and follow us on Twitter for updates and Wave tips.
- A Few Questions for Belle de Jour, Call Girl and Scientist – Freakonomics Blog – NYTimes.com –
- Indecent Exposure: When Sex Workers Get Outed | Carnal New York – The most common complaint leveled at Belle both before and after the reveal is that her memoir "glamorizes" prostitution—as though simply telling the truth about one's life is synonymous with promoting those circumstances. It's fascinating that in both England and the US, selling sex for money is assumed to be so alluring to most women as to need nothing more than one woman's non-traumatic experiences to convince thousands of others to join the hooker ranks. (Perhaps this is, in some ways, tacit acknowledgement of how few high-paying careers seem readily accessible to women or the pay gap that exists in both countries?)
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- 160 Handy Twitter Tools and Resources | Social Media Strategies and Tools Explained –
- FWD/Forward – FWD (feminists with disabilities) for a way forward
- Richmond High School gang rape: Cops arrest 2 in attack on Calif. teen girl; Bystanders did nothing | NY Daily News – The 15-year-old Richmond High School student hospitalized in stable condition after the attack, which happened while as many as 15 people, all males, looked on but didn't help or call police, investigators said.
- Pam’s House Blend:: Is It Transphobia Or Just Bad Journalism At Seventeen Magazine? – The thrust of the article, from the article headline to the bolded and highlighted text, seemed to be that female-to-male transsexuals are really females who are deceiving others. This isn't supported by "Sheri"/Jessica Press's use of proper pronouns throughout the piece, but it is accomplished in the headline chosen for the piece, and the highlighted and bolded call-out boxes for the piece.
- The jealousy issue – Times Online – Catherine Millet wrote a book about her own sexual adventures, so it was a shock when she grew obsessed with her husband and his lover. “It was then that I realised I was taking enormous masochistic pleasure in the jealousy, and particularly in the fantasies I conjured up of Jacques and other women. I had become a voyeur.”
- Mate debate: Is monogamy realistic? – CNN.com –
- Testimony of an Abortion Addict | Bitch Magazine – Irene Vilar’s extraordinary and incendiary new memoir, Impossible Motherhood: Testimony of an Abortion Addict, is a potential launching pad for a discussion about abortion that is more personal than political. Having terminated fifteen pregnancies in sixteen years, Vilar turns her experiences into a reminder that the complexity of abortion extends beyond the scientific and political arenas.
- Hate Crimes Bill Signed Into Law 11 Years After Matthew Shepard’s Death | Huffington Post – President Obama signed major civil rights legislation on Wednesday, making it a federal hate crime to assault people based on sexual orientation, gender and gender identity. The new measure expands the the scope of a 1968 law that applies to people attacked because of their race, religion or national origin. The U.S. Justice Department will have expanded authority to prosecute such crimes when local authorities don't.
- Interview with S. Bear Bergman (The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You) — Genderfork – I managed to get a copy of the book, and I need to tell you: it’s wonderful. It’s about life in the middle-ground of gender, and all the many ways the world around us hiccups as we try to live our lives. It’s encouraging and honest, and you should go buy it right now. There are very few people out there who are telling our story well in a mainstream medium. But Bear is one of them.
- How Journalists Can Use Twitter Lists to Customize, Discover and Curate | Poynter Online – E-Media Tidbits – The most powerful element of discovery is being able to follow other people's lists. In one click, all the users on that list will appear on your home page and Lists page.
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These are my links for October 25th through October 26th:
- Scary Sex Toys – Sex Toys That Are More Scary Than Sexy | Cory Silverberg – the sex toys below are ghoulish not just in their looks, but in misguided conception, poor design, and sometimes obvious danger.
- Social Networking – Legal and Ethical Issues for Lawyers and Investigators | Private Investigator Public Records Internet Search Privacy Reporting – PI Buzz – Much of the discussion concerned access to profile content, – the difference between civil and criminal (where there’s the familiar prosecution/defense imbalance) cases – whether certain information should be private even if it can be viewed by unintended parties.
- Kids and Sexy Costumes: The Problem With Halloween | BlogHer – Without a doubt, Halloween is a survivor; one that sticks around by absorbing the qualities of the culture in prominence where the holiday is celebrated. The truth of the matter is that Halloween is not a holiday for kids. The shift to kids is a very recent thing in its epic history, and I think the emergence of more and more sexualized costumes is both a reflection of our culture’s attitudes toward sex and an attempt to take the holiday back.
- Dr. Dick on Demand: Sex and the Aging Male – I’m receiving a startling number of correspondences lately from older men and their partners, highlighting the sexual difficulties of the aging process. It’s not surprising that these people are noticing the changes in their sexual response cycle as they age, but it is astonishing that they haven’t attributed the changes to andropause.
- Editorial – Oklahoma vs. Women – NYTimes.com – What persuaded the judge was not the affront to women’s rights, but a technical defect: the law addressed disparate issues in one bill in violation of the state’s Constitution. Still, the victory for reproductive freedom is heartening.
- How to Talk to Kids About Pornography – Tips for Parents on Talking to their Kids About Pornography | Cory Silverberg – If I could only give you one reason why you should at least think about talking to your kids about pornography it’s that, if statistics are to be believed, they are likely to encounter some of it before they reach an age where they’ll be able to critically understand what they are seeing.
- Google Docs Batch Export – Now you can export all your documents, spreadsheets, presentations and PDFs from Google Docs in a ZIP archive.
- Time to boycott Scholastic Books? Lauren Myracle’s ‘Luv Ya Bunches’ banned from school book fairs – Last week theSchool Library Journal and other sources reported that Scholastic Books is banning Luv Ya Bunches (a young adult novel by Lauren Myracle) from its book fairs because one of the main characters has gay parents and thus fails to “meet the norms of the various communities that host the fairs.”
- Rainbow Response Coalition – Welcome to the home page of Rainbow Response, a grassroots coalition that brings together organizations and leaders from the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning (LGBTQ) communities, along with traditional domestic violence service providers and government agencies. We collaborate to increase the awareness about Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) amid the relationships of LGBTQ individuals, educating within the LGBTQ communities and beyond.
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