Playboy Radio 2: Yes, No, Maybe, What was the question again? (Regina Lynn)
Sep 17th, 2025 by Viviane
My alumni magazine reports that a UC Davis professor of communications published a book about “applied interpersonal communication,” which here means “flirting and carrying on,” in which he found reasons for why a female “no” sounds like “yes” to many young men.
He notes that when a woman says “it’s getting late” as a way to stop or slow escalation of sexual intimacy, her male partner may hear “let’s speed things up.” The male interprets her indirect communication by imagining what he would mean if he voiced the same words.
In other words, each judges the other by themselves, a common human trait that gets us into all sorts of trouble.
However, when a person is direct (”Stop”), the other person is more likely to get it for what the person means, vs when a person is indirect (”I have a partner”).
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Tags: communication