memoir

My father, Andrew Jefferson Offutt V, grew up in a log cabin in Taylorsville, Ky. The house had 12-inch-thick walls with gun ports to defend against attackers: first Indians, then soldiers during the Civil War. At 12, Dad wrote a novel of the Old West. He taught himself to type with the Columbus method — find it and land on it — using one finger on his left hand and two fingers on his right. Dad typed swiftly and with great passion. In this fashion, he eventually wrote and published more than 400 books. Two were science fiction and 24 were fantasy, written under his own name; the rest were pornography, using 17 pseudonyms.

In the mid-1960s, Dad purchased several porn novels through the mail. My mother recalls him reading them with disgust — not because of the content, but because of how poorly they were written. He hurled a book across the room and told her he could do better. Mom suggested he do so. According to her, the tipping point for Dad’s full commitment to porn, five years later, was my orthodontic needs.

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/02/08/magazine/my-dad-the-pornographer.html

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What are you? Maybe you are a virgin, slut, thin, fat, warm, happy, bitchy, homeless, brainiac, jock, middle child, Gemini, proud, shy, sex worker, librarian, lumberjack, lesbian, straight, addict, slinky, sturdy, hard worker, lazy and/or tall?

Check whatever boxes fit and fill in the rest. As the old saying goes, “Thoughts are things.” What you believe about yourself and others will have an impact. Ducky will kick it off with some all-true, often hilarious storytelling of her life on the streets, as a gang girl, a sex worker, a lover, a sex educator and a few humbling, label-riddled experiences in between. She will also lead our discussion in how the labels we adopt, are assigned and give others shape our lives. We’ll roll through topics of sexuality, self image, personal history, empowerment,class, race, religion and where ever else our collective minds take us.

Where: Happy Ending Lounge, 302 Broome St, New York, NY
Cost:FREE

Open to adults 21+ and older

About Ducky Doolittle
With more than 20 years working in the field of sexuality, Ducky is considered to be one of America’s most celebrated sex educators. She is author of “Sex with the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered” and is a certified Sexual Assault & Violence Intervention Counselor. Harvard University has cited her as their “favorite, most informative and hilarious” sex educators ever to grace their campus. MTV said, “Who do you want to talk about sexuality with? Ducky DooLittle. She knows it all!” . She also continues to lecture on campuses, in community centers and at private events worldwide. With her trademark wit and humor, she speaks on topics such as pleasure anatomy, health & wellness, safer sex practice, STD education & awareness, LGBT rights, sexual assault prevention, intimate partner violence, alcohol & substance abuse, and boosting self-esteem. Learn more at: www.duckydoolittle.com

About The Chat Lounge
Taking the conversation out of the chat room, The Chat Lounge, focuses on bringing people face to smiling face, to meet, sip scrumptious cocktails and munch on salty and sweet snacks, while we talk about current issues in sexuality and the impact they have on our lives. Meeting the 3rd Thursday of every month at Happy Ending, 302 Broome Street, from 7:30 – 10:00, The Chat Lounge will feature a different speaker to guide discussions covering body image, gender, identity, orientation, love and relationships, the science of sex and much more.

 

 

Susie Bright. Photo by Stacie Joy. Used with permission.

Susie Bright. Photo by Stacie Joy. Used with permission.

Please join Bluestockings in welcoming the spectacular Susie Bright for a reading and signing of Big Sex Little Death, her enthralling and intimate memoir in which she reveals her extraordinary life story for the first time. From fearful Irish Catholic Girl Scout to gun-toting teenage revolutionary – and through to her emergence as the avatar of American erotica, Bright’s life was shaped by America’s sexual awakening while our sexual landscape was being altered by her life as a sexual freedom fighter. Come out and get an inspired taste of Susie Bright’s tale – bold, unpredictable, larger-than-life yet utterly-true.

Location: Bluestockings Bookstore, 172 Allen St., NYC. Get directions using Hopstop.
Cost: Free
More info:  http://bluestockings.com/events/

Big Sex Little Death – A Memoir by Susie Bright
http://bigsexlittledeath.com/

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