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Comstock Films now has a video podcast. The latest is episode 4 of Marie and Jack.

Beginning January 1st, Ning is kicking out its sex communities (SAI):
“Needless to say, adult communities and pornography are hugely popular, even if most companies don’t acknowledge it publically. But for a company looking to sell ads against content, all adult communities are good for is pulling in ads from other adult-related services.”

Susan Mernit’s Blogher column on What’s the right degree of transparency for you? 5 rules:
“For myself, I’ve been transparent up to a point. I blog here—and in other places—about my current primary relationship, my sexual politics, and causes I believe in—like marriage equality—but I don’t put all the details out there.”

Via Lolita Wolf, An Interview With A Real Life NYU Dominatrix:
“It was rather easy because I fit the role, but emotionally it was incredibly taxing. First I had to be sure that, with every possible tool of the trade suddenly at my whim, I was really comfortable with what could possibly happen and then, when I started and I was actually okay with it, I had to really look into myself and figure out what the hell was wrong with me that I wasn’t freaked out.”

“I can sail without wind, I can row without oars, but I cannot part from my friend without tears.”
The NYC Aids Monument was dedicated last Sunday.

As we wind the year down, the end of year lists are starting to show up. Susie Bright talks about her favorite dozen movies of 2008.

Getting to 3rd base: J.D. Bauchery talks about handjobs for the ladies in our lives:
“Call it finger fucking, finger banging, fingering, or whatever you will, it’s all the same thing – using your fingers/whole hand to stimulate a woman’s most sensitive bits.”

Lena Chen on racism is the new snark:
“Call this an overreaction, but I’m seriously disturbed by some of these comments. The Gawker article is offensive, sure, but considering the website’s habitual outrage at other people’s displays of ignorance, I’m going to chalk this up to a poor attempt at humor.”

Mashable has a post about 12 Great Tales of De-Friending:
“In summary, what I discovered is that everyone approaches their social network differently and it’s impossible to communicate all those nuances when you choose to de-friend.”

If you’re a fan of Twitter, you need to read Darren Rowse’s new blog chock full of Twitter tips, Twitip.

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Congratulations to Elizabeth Wood on the publication of her article about sex blogging and the need for a “sex commons”!!

Consciousness-raising 2.0: Sex Blogging and the Creation of a Feminist Sex Commons

Abstract: In this article, I develop the notion of a `sex commons’ on the internet as one way to help women build more satisfying sex lives. While women have not historically controlled their own sexuality, they have tended to control the dissemination of information about sexuality, first through oral traditions and traditional social networks, and later through media such as advice columns. Medicalization and the culture of expertise removed much of that control, but the consciousness-raising movement of the second wave of feminism used social networks to reclaim it. This article describes the ways that women’s internet sex blogs help develop vocabularies of desire, reduce shame, and build community, enabling women to continue this process of regaining control over information about sexuality. I argue that a commons model is useful for protecting access to that information, especially in the face of continuing medicalization of sexuality and corporate control of the internet, and conclude with suggestions for maintaining the sex commons and building feminist pathways to navigate it.

Citation: Feminism & Psychology, Vol. 18, No. 4, 480-487 (2008)

This was a paper first presented at the first Sex 2.0 in Atlanta (organized by Amber Rhea).

You can read more on what’s in the issue, on the article and how you can help her expand the article at Sex in the Public Square:

http://tinyurl.com/637xxt

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. . .In the days of social networks, always-on PDAs, real time tweets and FriendFeed links that update at the speed of light—and are visible to every Looky Lou perusing your account, deleting friends when things cool off can be a highly visible activity (as Xeni Jardin and Violet Blue each discovered when Xeni deleted 60+ posts and comments off her personal blog BoingBoing after the two apparently had a falling out). Therefore, the more politic of us now seem to do what corporate cowards have managed so adroitly for a long time—avoid any dramatic breaks in public contact, but in private, cut the sucker off, perfecting, if you will, the art of being ditched.

Obviously, if you’re dating someone regularly and they stop responding to emails, voicemails, tweets and so on, it’s brush off time for sure, but how about when it’s a more casual relationship, a friendship, or a friends with benefits situation? Can you tell if the person is just busy for the moment, or if you’re truly being ditched?

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An article about social networks, but mostly about Twitter – Viv

by Clive Thompson

. . . Social scientists have a name for this sort of incessant online contact. They call it “ambient awareness.” It is, they say, very much like being physically near someone and picking up on his mood through the little things he does — body language, sighs, stray comments — out of the corner of your eye. Facebook is no longer alone in offering this sort of interaction online. In the last year, there has been a boom in tools for “microblogging”: posting frequent tiny updates on what you’re doing. The phenomenon is quite different from what we normally think of as blogging, because a blog post is usually a written piece, sometimes quite long: a statement of opinion, a story, an analysis. But these new updates are something different. They’re far shorter, far more frequent and less carefully considered. One of the most popular new tools is Twitter, a Web site and messaging service that allows its two-million-plus users to broadcast to their friends haiku-length updates — limited to 140 characters, as brief as a mobile-phone text message — on what they’re doing. There are other services for reporting where you’re traveling (Dopplr) or for quickly tossing online a stream of the pictures, videos or Web sites you’re looking at (Tumblr). And there are even tools that give your location. When the new iPhone, with built-in tracking, was introduced in July, one million people began using Loopt, a piece of software that automatically tells all your friends exactly where you are.

. . .This is the paradox of ambient awareness. Each little update — each individual bit of social information — is insignificant on its own, even supremely mundane. But taken together, over time, the little snippets coalesce into a surprisingly sophisticated portrait of your friends’ and family members’ lives, like thousands of dots making a pointillist painting. This was never before possible, because in the real world, no friend would bother to call you up and detail the sandwiches she was eating. The ambient information becomes like “a type of E.S.P.,” as Haley described it to me, an invisible dimension floating over everyday life.

. .. As I interviewed some of the most aggressively social people online — people who follow hundreds or even thousands of others — it became clear that the picture was a little more complex than this question would suggest. Many maintained that their circle of true intimates, their very close friends and family, had not become bigger. Constant online contact had made those ties immeasurably richer, but it hadn’t actually increased the number of them; deep relationships are still predicated on face time, and there are only so many hours in the day for that.

But where their sociality had truly exploded was in their “weak ties” — loose acquaintances, people they knew less well. It might be someone they met at a conference, or someone from high school who recently “friended” them on Facebook, or somebody from last year’s holiday party. In their pre-Internet lives, these sorts of acquaintances would have quickly faded from their attention. But when one of these far-flung people suddenly posts a personal note to your feed, it is essentially a reminder that they exist. I have noticed this effect myself. In the last few months, dozens of old work colleagues I knew from 10 years ago in Toronto have friended me on Facebook, such that I’m now suddenly reading their stray comments and updates and falling into oblique, funny conversations with them. My overall Dunbar number is thus 301: Facebook (254) + Twitter (47), double what it would be without technology. Yet only 20 are family or people I’d consider close friends. The rest are weak ties — maintained via technology.

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