- Sexual Obituaries 2011 (Cory Silverberg) – People who choose to work around sexuality and gender often don’t get the acknowledgment from the mainstream media or from society as a whole that they would if their work was in another field. Every year, I feel this absence when I read the lists of famous people who died. Since 2006, I’ve tried to change that by sharing some of the sex and gender activists, educators, artists, and outlaws we lost in the year that is ending. Here is a list of sexual losses in 2011.
- Director Dee Rees And Star Adepero Oduye Talk Coming Out & Coming Of Age In ‘Pariah’ | indieWIRE – Pariah is the story of Alike (Oduye), a black lesbian teenager living in Fort Greene and navigating between the aggressive gay nightclub scene preferred by her butch best friend Laura (Pernell Walker) and a closeted life at home, where her tightly wound mother Audrey (Kim Wayans) tries to dress her in pink cardigans and quizzes her about who she’s taking to the school dance.
- Bondage Sex And The Liberation Of Culture – ErosBlog: The Sex Blog – For anybody with an interest in cultural history — and especially, aspects of cultural history that have ever been covert or officially suppressed, like porn — it’s this “everything floats up to the surface and becomes visible, in time” aspect of the Internet that is most miraculous. It’s far from complete, mind you — we have many centuries of recorded culture that have yet to be digitized and brought up from their buried layers of stone and canvas and paper and cellulose and vinyl and magnetic tape.
- 2011 Top Ten Sex Questions (Cory Silverberg) – I don’t dig into my statistics all that often, but once a year I like to see which questions and answers were the most popular…These ten questions are from the 105 Sex Questions that I’ve answered on the About.com site.
- Navigating Love and Autism – NYTimes.com- Only since the mid-1990s have a group of socially impaired young people with otherwise normal intelligence and language development been recognized as the neurological cousins of nonverbal autistic children. Because they have a hard time grasping what another is feeling — a trait sometimes described as “mindblindness” — many assumed that those with such autism spectrum disorders were incapable of, or indifferent to, intimate relationships. Parents and teachers have focused instead on helping them with school, friendship and, more recently, the workplace.Yet as they reach adulthood, the overarching quest of many in this first generation to be identified with Asperger syndrome is the same as many of their nonautistic peers: to find someone to love who will love them back. [via Violet Blue]
- When Will a Gay Pro Athlete Finally Come Out? — New York Magazine – “Something has happened in the last year,” says Jim Buzinski, co-founder of OutSports, an advocate for and chronicler of gay sports issues for more than a decade. “It’s almost like homophobia is no longer considered cool in sports.”
- Australian Passport Gender Options: ‘Transgender’ Will Be Included | HuffPo – Australian passports will now have three gender options – male, female and indeterminate – under new guidelines to remove discrimination against transgender people, the government said Thursday.
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Photo of Mac K. & Besu by Jack Montgomery
Last week I attended the TES Bondage SIG, for a presentation by Barbara Nitke‘s go-to rope rigger, Mac K. He suspended Besu in a beautiful asymmetrical suspension and gave this talk. This is the first part, but more to come. – Viv
Thank you all for having me again, and especially to Lolita for her raw determination in getting a date together. I can well imagine that she often gets her partners to stretch and do the sorts of things they might not otherwise, and about which, afterward, they’re grateful.
I’d like to open tonight with a quote from the blog of someone who appreciates many of the same things I do about art, culture, daring, polemic and especially Japanese aesthetics. His name is Tatsuya Ishida, and he’s the author of Sinfest. Here you go:
“Whenever I peel an orange, I save the stem end for last. There’s something about pulling out the spine that is very satisfying. Texture-wise, visually, the little plucky squirty sensation, it’s a fun little operation to cap the peeling process. That’s sort of my modus operandi when it comes to food. I try to leave the best for last. When I have a chicken pot pie, for example, I eat all the carrots and peas first, and leave a stash of chicken for the big finish. When I have a sandwich I work my way around the crust to the middle. I have this shit down to a science. Sometimes, though, it’s not so smooth. Things can get complicated. Like, when I’m eating a pancake breakfast with hash browns, bacon, and eggs, I can’t decide what my favorite thing is. I panic a little in my heart because I don’t know how it’s going to end. But that’s what life is all about. Thrills, man. Thrills. I start out all confident that I’ll end with a bite of bacon but then, the sweet syrupy pancakes start to win me over. Then the hash browns, that unassuming dark horse, make a comeback. And then the eggs are like, “Hey, we’re the pure unblemished souls of chickens! Recognize!” At that point, all bets are off. It’s anybody’s game. I might go with bacon. I might not. Nothing’s set in stone. Anything can happen. I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking, ‘Tat, you crazy fool! You HAVE to have the last bite planned out AT ALL TIMES!’ But I like to live on the edge, Jack. I take chances. I flirt with danger. That’s how I roll.â€
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And Then There Were Three | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com | sex. dating. relationships.I had my first threesome with two friends last night. Needless to say, that is so tooooootally not how I expected yesterday evening / this morning to turn out.
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balanced on the tip of my tongue | Sugarbutch ChroniclesWe talked. Safer sex, my history, hers, why I don’t go down, that I wanted to with her. This conversation, inevitably, led to kissing, my mouth on her neck, clavicle, nipples, which was suddenly such a heightened sensation because we were both so aware
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Same-sex weddings to start at 5 p.m. June 16Wedding bells will begin ringing for California’s same-sex couples at 5 p.m. June 16, state officials said Thursday. (Note: they also are seeking volunteers to help with the weddings)
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The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination — The Harvard University GazetteJ.K. Rowling’s commencement address to the graduating class of 2008.
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How Emily Gould Turns Us On | Fast CompanyAs it seems, this story has accomplished just the opposite of helping her come clean. Among both bloggers and those that follow them, Gould is now known as a calculating narcissist who chose to cash in on the very same strategy that presumably drove her t
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A Gentleman Whore: The Twenty-Second PostAll the spare time I have to myself these days is spent staring at the ceiling, catching up on sleep, feeding myself properly when I remember to, and trying to exhaust myself at the downtown all-night fitness. And I’d go tonight, but all I want to do at t
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Cool Tool: Knot Tying Cards…these cards are handy for those who already know how to tie proper knots, but don’t do so every day and need a quick reminder.
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Paris during Nazi occupation was ‘one big romp’ – Times OnlineA new book which suggests that the German occupation of France encouraged the sexual liberation of women has shocked a country still struggling to come to terms with its troubled history of collaboration with the Nazis.
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village voice > Pucker Up: The Training of O Turns the Tables on a Well-Known Domme by Tristan TaorminoMany of Kink’s regular models switch roles, but Donna is the first webmaster of a site to undertake the training program.
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Tracey Emin puts on erotic show for Royal Academy – Times OnlineBy choosing sex as her theme, Emin also hopes to exact a measure of artistic revenge. “I want to curate something which would upset Ruskin because he destroyed Turner’s pornographic art and I won’t forgive him for that,†she said.art
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Japanese bondage documentary ‘Bakushi’ knot suitable for faint-hearted – Mainichi Daily News“I’ve got no interest in kinbaku myself. But I like how the bakushi and his models can communicate through a single piece of rope, even though there’s no actual conversation between them. I wanted to capture this communication on film.”
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Research Links Herpes Virus and Brain Tumors | Wired Science from Wired.comIf Ted Kennedy’s cancerous lesion is a glioblastoma multiforme, the most common kind of brain tumor, it may have been caused by a virus from the herpes family.
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MommeDomme.com / r’s naughty thoughts on women drenched in baby oil or sweati am going to confess to You today my arousal involving women that have been drenched in baby oil and are all shining and glistening or even the wondrous phenomena of sweat sex, when a woman has just gotten done with fucking her well hung stud and her tit
By Scott McLemee
Last week, Intellectual Affairs gave the recent cable TV miniseries “Sex: The Revolution†a nod of recognition, however qualified, for its possible educational value. The idea that sex has a history is not, as such, self-evident. The series covers the changes in attitudes and norms between roughly 1950 and 1990 through interviews and archival footage. Most of this flies past at a breakneck speed, alas. The past becomes a hostage of the audience’s presumably diminished attention span.
With that consideration in mind, you tend to watch “Sex: The Revolution†with a certain indulgence — as entertainment with benefits, so to speak. Unfortunately, the makers stopped short. They neglected to interview scholars who might have provided more insight than a viewer might glean from soundbites by demi-celebrities. And so we end up with a version of history not too different from the one presented by Philip Larkin in the poem “Annus Mirabilis†—
Sexual intercourse began
In nineteen sixty-three
(Which was rather late for me) -
Between the end of the Chatterley ban
And the Beatles’ first LP.
— except without the irony. A belief that people in the old days must have been repressed is taken for granted. Was this a good thing or not? Phyllis Schlafly and reasonable people may disagree; but the idea itself is common coin of public discourse.
But suppose a television network made a different sort of program — one incorporating parts of what one might learn from reading the scholarship on the history of sex. What sense of the past might then emerge?
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