Link

• a pervert’s guide to good grammar: part 1, commas (pretty dumb things)
  I am not in a minority about this matter: I find good grammar sexy.
  (tags: grammar sex)
• Petty Larceny: “Edgy” New New York Press Sex Columnist Stole Incest Question From Dan Savage
  Yesterday a brand-new sex advice column debuted in the New York Press and an editor at the paper sent me a pitch, wondering if I would link to it.
  (tags: plagiarism media)

DARK ODYSSEY: A journey of sexual adventure, where open minded people gather to explore Tantra, Polyamory, Intimate Communications, BDSM, Alternative Lifestyles and more. With nationally known presenters, hands on workshops, intriguing lectures and exciting social events, experience a vacation you are sure to not forget.

You have until Monday, January 28th to register for Dark Odyssey Winter Fire, for only $145. ($135 if you’re member of a participating organization - there are many). After January 28th both registration and hotel rates go up significantly.

Here’s the presenter/class list (I just got the email an hour ago, the DO website hasn’t been updated yet):

Anita Wagner
Barbara Carrellas
British “Lucky” Paul
Dossie Easton
Lee Harrington
Mark Michaels & Patricia Johnson
Rita Seagrave
Sacred Mark Sanctuary
Sarah Sloane
Suzanne SxySadist
Thomas/Shibari Warrior
Wintersong Tashlin
Barak & Brat Sheba
Cristo
Lady Hilary
Lady Ru’etha
Rachel Kramer Bussel
Olga

They offer some of the most unique, exciting workshops anywhere, with an emphasis on hands-on demonstrations, including:

• Kinky Barbershop: Learning the Art of Shaving
• Knife Play 101 & Taking It To The Next Level
• Anal Play
• Play Piercing
• Vaginal Fisting
• The Joy of Cunt Play: How to Make a Woman Scream
• Yielding to Brutality
• Bringing Sex to Life: Writing and Publishing Erotica
• Sacred Body Modification
• Piercing Art
• Erotic Expansion
• Tantric Sexual Ritual
• Effective Flirting
• Rope For Sex
• Creating the Leather Relationship of your Dreams…and Keeping It
• Meeting Our Needs: Exploring “Alternative” Relationship Structures
• Diverse Age Play and Familial Roles in Kink
• Hypnosis: Exploding the Non-Consent Myth
• D/s Tantra: The Tao of Power Exchange
• Cruising the Archetypes
• Ethical Sluts
• Bottomless Pits or How to Top Serious Pain Sluts
• How to Win Play Dates and Influence Kinksters
• Fucking Machines
• Wax Play
• Erotic Breathwork Workshop
• Spirituality & BDSM
• Making Peace with Jealousy in Polyamorous Relationships
• Introduction to Basic Suspension
• Introduction to Rope Bondage
• The Joys of Flying “Low”
• Intention and Connection
• Adaptable Bondage or “Learning to Fly”: Ecstatic Percussion Workshop

In addition to workshops, Dark Odyssey features nightly parties, a banquet with entertainment, hospitality suite, incredible vendors and, of course, a huge, fully equipped dungeon and other intimate play spaces.

There’s also an attendee area which you’ll get access to. Use it to:
* Read Attendee Profiles
* Check the News and Message Bases
* Sign up for a Room and Ride Share
* Create Play/Party Invitations
* Join the Chat Room
* Edit your Badge Information

Link (plus 15 more free pics)

• The wrong side of the tracks (Twisted monk)
  Danger, especially the danger of getting caught can be a powerful aphrodisiac.
  (tags: erotica shibari sex)
• Tuesday Tasting: Sensual Intelligence, Cell Phones and Sex::Tech (Shake Well Before Use)
  Each week, Ariel Waldman serves a tasting of the latest in sex and tech.
  (tags: sex sextoys)
• APA Studies Say Equal Level of Commitment and Relationship Satisfaction Among Same-sex and Heterosexual Couples | Sex In The Public Square
  Same-sex couples are just as committed in their romantic relationships as heterosexual couples, say researchers who have studied the quality of adult relationships and healthy development.
  (tags: relationships heterosexual gay)
• Cranberries might help prevent urinary infections in women (Physorg.com)
  Jepson and her colleague found that cranberry products significantly reduced UTIs over 12 months compared to the placebo/control groups.
  (tags: women health)
• The Secret Room (Lolita Wolf’s Predictions & Predilections)
  I peered in and the light was shining brightly onto a chain on the floor. The chain sparkled all shiny and new. It was attached with a purple lock to a ring that was installed into the baseboard.
  (tags: erotica bondage sexblogs lolita+wolf)
• Saline Clitoral Inflation (ModBlog)
  ..she’s been slowly enlarging her clitoris using a wide variety of means, including local hormone treatment (testosterone cream), regular vacuum pumping, saline inflation, and play.
  (tags: bodymod)
• Five smart sex podcasts - Download Squad
  Amber Rhea’s personal faves:Open Source Sex, Polyamory Weekly, MTSS, Live Girl Review, and Sex is Fun.
  (tags: podcasting sex audaciaray violetblue teen)
• Zeta Psi Pledges “Love Yale Sluts,” Women’s Center Pledges to Sue - IvyGate, the Ivy League blog
  (tags: women harassment)

Happy birthday, Susan Mernit! And many more.

I think it started when Susan found Jefferson, or perhaps with a comment. I was reading her blog because one of the techorati suggested I read it. And independently, she started reading one of my vanilla blogs. Then she wrote and said, “we should meet, yes? We have many things in common.” Little did we know!

Sometime last year, I started introducing her by saying, ’she was one of our first champions.” She talked about the sex bloggers, identity and privacy, at Gnomedex, of all places (Figleaf was there).

Thanks to many tech tools (IM, Flickr, Twitter), we can share what’s going on in each other’s lives. I only wish I could have been part of the 5 day celebration that is her birthday.

Link

Please welcome back The Butterfly Temptress. You can also follow her on Twitter.

• ChatMaker.NET: Make your own chat room!
  (tags: web tools)
• Sex in the City - The Real Version: Shall I Write Tonight?
  Tonight I put on my white vinyl nurse’s uniform and black latex surgical gloves. It’s time to give Martin an enema.
  (tags: sex enema sexblogs anal)
• Access denied: A different kind of de facto segregation | Sex In The Public Square
  It’s interesting that “Blog for Choice” day falls right after Martin Luther King Jr’s holiday. It has me thinking about intersections and parallels of civil rights issues.
  (tags: abortion sex)

Um.

Does Isabella Rossellini have an insect sex fetish? Probably not, but she sure likes talking about their mating habits. You know, for educational purposes. Check out the following:

PARK CITY, UTAH — Among the lurid tales of sex and violence that haunt the Sundance Film Festival screens, there are few more gruesome and titillating than those of Green Porno, a series of short films made by Isabella Rossellini and her Canadian collaborators.The films, in which Rossellini dresses up as bugs, worms and snails, and simultaneously describes and demonstrates their mating behaviour, start out mildly enough. The actress with the round, angelic movie-star face begins speaking directly to the camera: “If I were a dragon fly, I would have compound eyes … ”

An instant later, the compound eyes appear on her face. Soon, she’s describing and demonstrating how she would take her clasping organs and grab her female partner: “I would clean her vagina to make sure she would only have my babies …If I were a firefly, I would light up my ass at night and I would fly here and I would fly there …”

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Wow.

Title: Best Women’s Erotica 2009
Editor: Violet Blue
Publisher: Cleis Press
Deadline: May 1st, 2008

Please note: Publisher has final right of refusal on all submissions. Payment is upon publication, plus 2 copies of the book; pub date is November 2008.

Best Women’s Erotica is a legendary and groundbreaking yearly series, and is the best-selling women’s erotica collection, period. Every year BWE raises the bar for explicit erotica written by and for women, penned by the most exciting female authors, from around the world.

This edition (BWE 2009) is selected and edited by Violet Blue. In this edition, we are looking for fictional stories that seek to push the boundaries of female sexuality, present realistic fantasies and situations, and break taboos. The sex acts depicted must be explicit and realistic in detail. A strong focus on character, predicament, and compelling situations is desired — smart, literate erotic fiction. The desired orientation within the main sexual element of the stories is primarily heterosexual, yet bisexuality and lesbian encounters are also encouraged. The primary focus of sexual activity must be on the female experience; female pleasure is the main element. A playful, clever approach is welcome, as are intense scenarios.

Both editions of BWE 2006 and BWE ‘07 won the Independent Publisher award for Best Erotica Book. Both BWE ‘06, ‘07 (and just-released ‘08) edited by Violet Blue are very different from past editions — please read a few stories from either book or the introductions for examples of tone. Dark themes (such as breakup, jealousy, infidelity and death) must be exceptional in content for acceptance and are *least* desired. Do not send sci-fi, poetry or fantasy fiction.

Established authors and newcomers alike are welcome.

Desired themes include: Women’s sexual fantasies and experiences of all kinds, such as taboo sex acts, fantasy scenarios (real or imagined), bondage, fetish, male anal penetration (such as strap-on play), first-time experiences, light S/M, exhibitionism, power-play, voyeurism, public sex, seduction, role-play, spontaneous sex, spanking, erotic punishment, sexual surprise, emotional honesty, desire, longing, lust, passion, female fierceness, power (and power struggles), deviousness, meaning, themes that involve the Internet and technology, and sublime humor. Above all, include explicit sex.

Paste your pieces into emails and send to: cleisbook at gmail.com

Editor’s notes: If you send an attachment, I will delete your email immediately. I am not accepting paper submissions. Only three submissions per author. Word count: 2500 to 4500 words is the desired range. You *must* include your name, a short bio, mailing address and main contact email address with your submission. No simultaneous submissions (you will be disqualified with no hesitation if you submit it to multiple publications), and no reprints. Excerpts from already-published, full-length books will be considered. Authors must be female; sorry, no male authors writing under pseudonym. Because of the volume of submissions last year (literally hundreds), I likely won’t be able to respond to your submissions until late May. Please only use the cleisbook at gmail.com address for correspondence about this book. I appreciate your patience in advance!

Edited by: Sassafras Lowrey**
Publisher: Homofactus Press
Deadline: March 1, 2008

Kicked Out is an anthology, which chronicles the experiences of former queer youth and current queer youth who were forced to leave home as minors because of their sexuality and/or gender identity.

Kicked Out tells our collective stories of survival, weaving together descriptions of abuse, and homelessness with poignant accounts of the ways in which the queer community offered sanctuary, and the power and importance of creating our own chosen families etc.

Kicked Out offers advice and wisdom to the queer youth of today from former queer youth who have survived. Additionally, it provides the opportunity for readers to get a glimpse into the world of those queer youth who as a result of circumstance have had to leave home, while simultaneously shattering the stereotypes of who queer youth are, and what they have the potential to become.

Kicked Out showcases stories of overcoming obstacles, and not simply surviving but thriving in the face of seemingly insurmountable adversity. Kicked Out will explore the diversity of our experiences across lines of race, class, gender, sexuality, ability, and geographic region celebrating our differences, and showcases the ways in which they have contributed to our unique experiences.

Possible topics include but are not limited to:
• How being forced to leave home as a minor continues to impact your adult life
• What happened to you when you left home and how you survived
• Words of wisdom for today’s homeless queer youth—what you wished someone had told you
• Survival through the creation of “chosen family”
• Challenges of dealing with CPS or other agencies
• Success through adversity- overcoming a troubled past

Submissions should be between 1,500 and 2,500 words in length and previously unpublished. Submit your piece via e-mail in .doc format to KickedOutAnthology@gmail.com. Multiple submissions per contributor are welcome. Please include a short biography and contact information with your submission. Submissions must be received no later than March 1, 2008; contributors are encouraged to submit early. Rights revert to the authors upon publication. Contributors whose work appears in the anthology will receive TBA free copy(ies) as well as ongoing royalties. for more information check us out online at: www.myspace.com/kickedoutanthology

**Sassafras Lowrey is a high femme writer, artist, and activist. Ze was forced to leave home as a teenager after suffering physical violence after coming out as queer. Sassafras found hir way to queer youth organizations and movements, which quite literally saved hir life. As an adult ze has never forgotten the impact those groups had on hir life and has volunteered regularly with the queer youth of today. Sassafras lives with hir partner, two cats and a dog in New York City. Hir first book “GSA to Marriage: Stories of a Life Lived Queerly” is scheduled for release Summer 2008.

A Benefit for the new erotic romantic comedy “Euphoric Tendencies”

Saturday, January 26th
Time: 7-11 Pm
Location: Epiphany Theater, 154 Christopher St., Ste 2B
More Information

Join the Friends of ART As We Gather to Raise Funds to Produce the World Premiere of this Spanking New Play

Join the cast and crew — come spank or be spanked by and with some of New York’s hottest spankers.

Entrance Donation — $20 in advance. $25 at the door (includes one beverage ticket & munchies)

Spankings & additional beverages priced separately.

Special Guest Spankers/Spankees include:
Clyde — top, Deity I — top, Goddess Caitlin — top
Lady Jessica Sovereign— top, Maitresse Scarlette Stangata — top
Mercy — bottom, Michael — Owner of Paddles — top
Mistress Athenais — top, Mistress Bettie — top
Mistress Crimson — top, Mistress Dominae Drakonis — top
Mistress Sage — top, Ms. Cassandra Park — switch
Nix Nepenthe — bottom, Red Cheekster — switch, Rossbound — bottom
Tasha Lee — switch, Lolita Wolf — top, Yoni — switch

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #116? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Debauched nothings
“You promised me you’d give me your cock.”

Sex Trophies
“Inside the drawer are two pair of panties.”

Who gets to talk about sex?
“I was thinking the other day about who gets to talk about sex and sexuality.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Cashback

Editor’s Choice
The houseboy’s rebellion

Erotic Writing and Experiences
About Chantal, now…
CyberGirl goes beyond amazing
Lady Chatterley’s Ruf
My New York Indiscretion
Off on the right foot
Table Top
Tonia (Part 2)
The Train
Valentine.
Walking Home In Her Panties

Sex Humor
A joke

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Because.
Bragging rights and the name game
Circumcise Me
An Eco-Sexy New Year
I mean this in a caring way
A Time For Sex Ed Innocence
An unexpected sexy anniversary
The Way I Like It

Sex Work
Keeping It In The Family II
What Do You Look Like, Rose?

NSFW Pics & Videos
Aradia Ardor
The Cam Lover is lonely and needs rough sex with a new doll
Crystal Klein super hottie
Kyla Cole
Missy Nicole - I’m Bored

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews
Adult Entertainment Expo 2008
Dana DeArmond Submits To The Training Of O (Bondage, Forced Orgasms)
Fetish Fair Fleamarket recap
Harmony HotMovies Interview
Jamye Waxman Wants You to Find Your O Face

BDSM & Fetish
Effervescent
Flavours of Pain
Half-Nekkid Toe Licker
The houseboy’s rebellion
LA Story: the night I learned to f-u-c-k
Padme amidala: My history of blowjobs
Recovery
Sexy porn turns into a sexy mental fantasy
Spanked Her Off to Work. - The Husband
Trick or Treat
(The Worst?) Profile of the week

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

Photo: Errotica Archives

Today is Blog for Choice day.

How are you commemorating the 35th anniverary of Roe vs. Wade?

BEST SEX WRITING 2008 BOOK RELEASE PARTY AND READING!

Featuring editor Rachel Kramer Bussel, Rachel Shukert (”Big Mouth trikes Again: An Oral Report”), Lux Nightmare (”The Pink Ghetto”), iriam Datskovsky (”Absolut Nude”), and Liz Langley (”Sex and the Single Septuagenarian”). Free cupcakes from Kumquat Cupcakery will be served, and books will be available for sale and signing.

About Best Sex Writing 2008: The best sex journalism of the year in one unforgettable book Do Jewish girls give better blowjobs? What does it mean to be a modern-day eunuch? Does abstinence-only sex education work? Would you want to work in the pink ghetto or live in the glass closet? How”hung” are African-American men? What happens to a celebrity sex tape star in Iran? Best Sex Writing 2008 answers these questions (and raises many more) as it probes the inner lives of those on the front lines — political, personal, and cultural — of lust.

From dangerous dildos to professional submissives, the erotic appeal of twins, sex work, pornography and much more, these authors delve into the underbelly of eroticism. Probing stereotypes, truths, and the tricky areas in between, Best Sex Writing 2008 opens the bedroom door and explores the complexity of modern sexuality with thought-provoking, cutting-edge essays and articles.

Date: Tuesday, January 22, 7 pm - 9 pm
Location: Rapture Cafe, 200 Avenue A (between 12th and 13th), NYC
Cost: FREE

Link

I am happy to join with you today in what will go down in history as the greatest demonstration for freedom in the history of our nation.

Five score years ago, a great American, in whose symbolic shadow we stand today, signed the Emancipation Proclamation. This momentous decree came as a great beacon light of hope to millions of Negro slaves who had been seared in the flames of withering injustice. It came as a joyous daybreak to end the long night of their captivity.

But one hundred years later, the Negro still is not free. One hundred years later, the life of the Negro is still sadly crippled by the manacles of segregation and the chains of discrimination. One hundred years later, the Negro lives on a lonely island of poverty in the midst of a vast ocean of material prosperity. One hundred years later, the Negro is still languished in the corners of American society and finds himself an exile in his own land. And so we’ve come here today to dramatize a shameful condition.

Full text at the American Rhetoric site.

• Bliss Warrior
  The biGirl’s guide to decadent living
  (tags: bisexual women sexblogs,)
• BDSM! An Olympic Sport Since 1936 - Figleaf’s Real Adult Sex
  So I’m sure when *you* go on a family vacation to the home of the upcoming 2010 Winter Olympics your thoughts turn to society’s attitude towards BDSM too.
  (tags: bdsm sexblogs)
• BLACK PORN: IT AIN’T JUST SEX ON SCREEN - Black Voices Blogs
  MONEY SHOT uncovers sexual and racial politics–including racism, and the hypersexual portrayal of Black women, discusses how AIDS plays a role, and looks at the close ties between the porn industry and the corporate hip-hop world (think Snoop Doggy Dogg’
  (tags: news porn)
• PervScan » Free Sex at Prague Brothel Tests Taboo as Reality Romps Hit Web
  Big Sister is marrying 21st-century technology with the world’s oldest profession to profit from the public’s appetite for ever-more graphic reality TV.
  (tags: sexwork internet)
• For Your Nymphomation - Private storage for your pleasurables.
  For Your Nymphomation™ (FYN) storage cases are designed to discreetly hide your ‘pleasurables’ - e.g. condoms, sex toys, pornographic magazines & DVDs, floggers, and other adult novelties.
  (tags: sextoys shopping)
• Women’s Sexual Health Study
  This study will investigate these issues among women who use lubricants during sexual activity either alone or with a partner. (via Essin Em)
  (tags: health women sex)
• Online name card creator (gHacks)
  Deyey is a name card and business card creator which allows you design your business card from scratch, add text, media, and pre-designed elements.
  (tags: tools)
• SpoutBlog » Sundance 2008: Roman Polanski: Wanted & Desired (Karina Longworth)
  It’s an methodical but irreverant look at the legal quagmire and media scandal and that erupted in 1977, after a 13 year old girl accused Polanski of raping her in Jack Nicholson’s hottub whilst taking topless photos of her for Men’s Vogue.
  (tags: sex media movies)

I’ve made a big, weird decision that I’m still getting used to, but the cogs are in motion and it is happening. Effective with the spring issue and the start of $pread’s fourth year in print, I’ve decided that I will no longer be the executive editor of the magazine, nor will I be directly involved in the writing, editing and production of the magazine.

It’s taken me several months to let go, to really make the clear decision that my time at $pread has come to a close. But it has, and it’s time for me to move on.

Amber has written recently about activism and burn out and feeling like great things can’t be accomplished. This is kinda-sorta-notreally what I’m going through. I firmly and solidly believe that great things can be accomplished - and I believe that $pread can accomplish great things, and so can I. I am, however, feeling burnt out from three years of being an executive editor. Oh, I forgot one very important word: VOLUNTEER. Yes, it’s true - $pread is run entirely by a staff of devoted, passionate volunteers. And that takes a lot out of a person, especially after three years - three years in which I’ve started to make it as a writer and an editor in my own (paid) right.

In the future -which is to say, like, tomorrow- I will continue to work on sex work issues. I’m definitely not abandoning that part of my work, it just has to take different forms. Instead of working very specifically and separately within the sex worker communities on these issues, I want to fold them into the grander work I’m doing - like what I did with my book, writing about sexuality and sex work issues side-by-side. I have some stuff brewing that I don’t want to write about publicly and get it all jinxed, but we’ll see how everything develops over the next few months.

In the meantime, I’ll also be figuring out other ways of supporting $pread and the folks involved with the magazine, through other kinds of advocacy and hell-raising. We’ll see how it all pans out, and I’ll certainly be writing about it all as I figure it out.

And folks, this also means that $pread is looking for new contributors and people to work on editorial projects. We (they? - wow, that’s going to take some getting used to) aren’t ready to hire a full-on editor, but there is that need and opportunity once you prove your salt. Here’s the call, feel free to pass it on to anyone who might be interested:

$pread Magazine - an award-winning independent publication by and for people in the sex industry, is seeking past and current porn actors, phone sex operators, escorts, prostitutes, streetworkers, dommes, webcam workers, strippers / dancers, massage parlor workers, etc to submit work to our magazine.

We accept submissions from female, male and trans people who have done sex work in the past, as well as those who are currently still in the industry. We maintain an extremely inclusive editorial policy, as our
broadest aim is to be an informative and shameless voice of people who’ve worked in the sex industry.

STAFF-TRACK POSITIONS
We are currently looking for qualified people to become columnists / section editors, and prefer to work with people on a single writing piece first, before consideration for a longer-term assignment.

WRITING
We are seeking writers [editorial experience a bonus] to submit creative writing, pitch articles and write reviews and contribute to our various sections.

SECTIONS: We are always looking for writing for include:
Cunning Linguist – definitions of industry terminology
Scene Report – short articles about what a specific industry is like in a region [eg, dancing in Atlanta]
News – articles on news items relating to the sex industry
Creative Nonfiction, Fiction and Poetry – memoir and stories from the perspectives and experiences of people in the sex industry
Reviews – of recent books, movies, performances, websites, media etc. related to the sex industry
-We also are always looking for panelists to review products or argue
a position in some of our regular columns.

-STYLE: As well, we are looking for sexworkers who design clothes to submit information for consideration for review in our style section, and people to submit photographs of themselves in work and non-work clothes for a personal

-ARTICLES: We also welcome pitches for longer articles or interviews with people who work in or around the sex industry.

-ART: We welcome submissions of illustrations and photographs for individual usage and photo essays.

We do not offer payment for articles or art at this time, but you will receive a publishing credit and a copy of the magazine in which your work appears.

Find out more about us at www.spreadmagazine.org. Email us at contribute[at]spreadmagazine[dot]org if you’re interested in working with us - we look forward to hearing from you.

Link

• Practical Polyamory: Is it Love, or a Mutual Strangulation Society? (Practical Polyamory)
  I am inspired today by an excellent article published by CNN from Oprah.com titled the same as this blog entry.
  (tags: polyamory)
• Huckabee Directly Equates Homosexuality With Bestiality (Talking Points Memo)
  Huck has just clarified his view that the Constitution should be amended to be brought in line with God’s will — and he directly equated homosexuality with bestiality.
  (tags: politics)

• Top 7 Geek Panties (for girls) (GameGirl.com)
  It’s just like when we were young and we were so proud of our Disney Princess or Care Bear underwear.
  (tags: gifts)
• So, I seduced a Mac geek / Violet Blue, a black turtleneck and Macworld Kama Sutra
  There’s an art to getting laid and seducing geeks at a tech convention, especially if you’re not a girl.
  (tags: sexblogs technology violetblue)
• See No Evil, Hear No Evil (Cory Silverberg)
  The costs of getting an erection just keep going up, prompting me to once again ask, how far men will go for their erections?
  (tags: men health)

Silence has no place in the bedroom - unless you’re gagged!

Join us for this fun and risqué evening. We’ll start with a one hour class and learn a little something about the art of “sexy” talk. After that we’ll open up the floor to Q & A and comments from the audience.

This multi sensory evening will inspire you to be more erotic and adventurous. After the class we’ll have time to hang out for the rest of the evening and perhaps practice what we’ve just learned.

Sounds a little naughty to me :o)

Having hotter, sexier sex doesn’t require you to spend a fortune on an arsenal of sex toys and accessories. Mind blowing sex can be achieved by using what your already possess. This course will teach you how to use your voice, your imagination, and your erotic vocabulary to add fun and spice to the bedroom or the backseat.

If you don’t think you have an erotic vocabulary, you will by the time you leave. From using your cell phone to send messages that leave you breathless with anticipation to looking into your lover’s eyes as you relate just how good that feels, you’ll learn how to go at your own pace as you release your inner slut or stud.

Tess Danesi is a writer and kinkster who believes dirty talk isn’t about imitating porn star speak, unless that really appeals to you, but about gaining the confidence to say all those things you think, feel and desire. From moans and groans, to long sentences detailing what you want now, good dirty talk is about being authentic.

When: Saturday, January 26, 2008 at 8:00 PM
Where: New York City - Kanvas Lounge: On Ninth Avenue and 23rd Street
More info: Real Live People Party

…But we’re still far from living in a sex-positive culture. There hasn’t been any more research on female ejaculation than there was when I wrote my first column about it in 1999. Abstinence-only sex education continues to get more funding and support than other programs. Right-wing hypocrites continue to get caught with their pants down, sending inappropriate IMs or making moves in bathroom stalls. Lame celebrity-sex tapes have become more popular than big-budget porn features. People who practice BDSM, polyamory, and other alternative sexualities are still demonized and misrepresented. Meatholes.com still gets more traffic than planned parenthood.org. There are folks still writing to me every day that are struggling with confusion, disempowerment, shame, guilt, and a lack of knowledge about their sexual desires, fantasies, and identities.

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