polyamory

Linkage for 2009-12-30

by Viviane on 12/30/2024

in blowjob, polyamory, sex, video

You have until Monday,  Jan 4, 2010 to enter the enormous Fetlife giveaway!

Star Trek body painting (via @johannes_mono)

I participated in a discussion about privacy at the KinkonTap show. It’s broadcast live on Sundays 8 PM EST. There’s an accompanying chat room which you can participate in.

The web’s only BBS BDSM site: paddedkink.com (follow @kellyshibari).

Sex and the 405′s Weirdest Sex News of 2009.

Two nice blowjob sites;  The Art of the Blowjob and  Fellucia Blow.

Two blogs by phone sex operators: Phone Slut Confessions and Cameryn Mooore.

New video HD site: Scartlettblue.com

Anita Wagner analyzes the impact of the Newsweek polyamory article on the opposition
A retrospective show of Ellen Von Unwerth’s work, Fraulein runs until Jan 30th at Staley-Wise.

Susan Wright, author of To Serve and Submit and A Pound of Flesh, has a new book out, Confessions of a Demon.

The Daily Beast’s Decade in Sex.

Testosterone and the Trans Male Singing Voice (via Lee Harrington).

Happy New Year!

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Achieving Domestic Bliss: Practical Realities of Living in a Multiple Partner Household in NYC

by Viviane on 11/13/2024

in Events, polyamory

Where: Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center, 208 W. 13th (between 7th & 8th).
Phone: 212.620.7310

As Gay Men and Lesbian Women in coupled relationships, we are experts at redefining traditional gender roles and responsibilities around the house and home. Provided we’re not affluent enough to afford a maid or pay for dinner at restaurants every night, most of us have been able to effectively negotiate who does the laundry, who makes dinner and washes the dishes, etc.

However, in a multiple partner situation things can get a little more interesting especially in New York City where square footage comes at a premium, and group sex becomes innovative out of cramped necessity instead of a desire for erotic variety.

This coming Wednesday night, Polyamorous NYC will take a look at the practical realities of what it takes to help relationships run comfortably when there are more than 2 people involved.

Whether you already in a 4way relationship trying to share a 200 square foot studio on the Lower East Side or your simply interested in dating couples, you’ll get answers to questions like, ‘what’s the best way to keep from overheating if you sleep in the middle?’, and ‘how can 3 people all use 1 shower in the morning and still make it to work on time?’. You’ll also have plenty of opportunity to ask you’re own questions. We’ll share options for what has worked and what hasn’t in a city with millions of sexy people and incredibly limited floor space. We hope you’ll join us.

Love Boldly,

Justen M. Bennett-Maccubbin, Board Chair
Polyamorous NYC
www.Poly-NYC.com
212.543.9494

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Polyamory: The Next Sexual Revolution? (Newsweek.com)

by Viviane on 07/31/2024

in polyamory

By Jessica Bennett

Terisa Greenan and her boyfriend, Matt, are enjoying a rare day of Seattle sun, sharing a beet carpaccio on the patio of a local restaurant. Matt holds Terisa’s hand, as his 6-year-old son squeezes in between the couple to give Terisa a kiss. His mother, Vera, looks over and smiles; she’s there with her boyfriend, Larry. Suddenly it starts to rain, and the group must move inside. In the process, they rearrange themselves: Matt’s hand touches Vera’s leg. Terisa gives Larry a kiss. The child, seemingly unconcerned, puts his arms around his mother and digs into his meal.

Terisa and Matt and Vera and Larry—along with Scott, who’s also at this dinner—are not swingers, per se; they aren’t pursuing casual sex. Nor are they polygamists of the sort portrayed on HBO’s Big Love; they aren’t religious, and they don’t have multiple wives. But they do believe in “ethical nonmonogamy,” or engaging in loving, intimate relationships with more than one person—based upon the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. They are polyamorous, to use the term of art applied to multiple-partner families like theirs, and they wouldn’t want to live any other way.

Terisa, 41, is at the center of this particular polyamorous cluster. A filmmaker and actress, she is well-spoken, slender and attractive, with dark, shoulder-length hair, porcelain skin—and a powerful need for attention. Twelve years ago, she started datingScott, a writer and classical-album merchant. A couple years later, Scott introduced her to Larry, a software developer at Microsoft, and the two quickly fell in love, with Scott’s assent. The three have been living together for a decade now, but continue to date others casually on the side. Recently, Terisa decided to add Matt, a London transplant to Seattle, to the mix. Matt’s wife, Vera, was OK with that; soon, she was dating Terisa’s husband, Larry. If Scott starts feeling neglected, he can call the woman he’s been dating casually on the side. Everyone in this group is heterosexual, and they insist they never sleep with more than one person at a time.

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Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

by Domina Doll on 06/20/2024

in book, books, polyamory, polygamy, relationships, Tristan Taormino, tristantaormino

openingup Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

“Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships” by Tristan Taormino is an enlightening and thought-provoking book that explores the diverse aspects of nonmonogamous relationships from solo polyamory, to partnered nonmonogamy, to triangles and groups.  The book features a wealth of information from stats to brief histories of polyamory in the U.S., as well as Taormino’s own research on the subject where she interviewed over 100 people living in open relationships over the past ten years.

The Guide begins by relating the history of polyamory, as well as breaking the myths of monogamy and traditional relationships, why you might want to choose a nonmonogamous lifestyle and what makes nonmonogamy work.  Section 2 looks at the many styles or models of nonmonogamous relationships and Section 3 talks about creating and sustaining relationships.  There is also a resource guide at the end which lists books, organizations and websites for further information.

Throughout the book Taormino uses checklists and practical advice for the reader which she says can be used like a roadmap to navigate your own way through the different styles and create your own model based on you and your partner(s) needs, desires, and unique situation(s).  Like any emotional or sexual relationship, polyamorous relationships have unique problems, potential issues and conflicts that arise that are common to open relationships.  Taormino deals with each of these giving practical advice and coping strategies including: jealousy, fear of abandonment, time management, negotiating boundaries, violating agreements, new desire, coping with change, safer sex as well as legal issues.

The highlight of the book is the real life experiences Taormino uses with quotes, stories and advice from a diverse group of people who share their desires, fears, challenges, solutions, successes and failures with the reader to provide meaningful context.  This book is really a thoughtful and comprehensive guide on open relationships of all kinds, leaving no stone unturned.  Enlightening, inspirational, and practical, this book is for anyone interested in or already living in responsible nonmonogamous relationships.

You can purchase “Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships” by Tristan Taormino at Babeland.


Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

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NYC Poly Casting Call: This Friday

by Viviane on 10/21/2025

in nyc, polyamory

Award-winning production company, Linton Media, is seeking to cast a new docu-reality series based on the lives of polyamorous or poly-curious individuals and their partners.  There is strong network interest in the show. Looking for serious auditions only.

Are you 20-35 years old, dynamic, charismatic and not at all afraid to show your authentic side?  Are you a married couple and just integrating polyamory into your relationship?  Gay, straight, bi-sexual, trans and have never really heard of polyamory or how it works but, willing to explore?  Are you someone who has always been prone to affairs, realize monogamy is just not for you, want to bring everything above board and declare yourself polyamorous?

Looking to cast 5 primary characters who, along with their partners, lovers, spouses, are willing to be completely out and open as you challenge traditional monogamy and embrace or explore this new “love-style” movement.

Date/ Time: Friday October 24th, 11am-4pm

Location: Linton Media Office’s
68 Jay Street, Suite 409
(corner of Jay and Front in Dumbo, Brooklyn-Take F train to York Street)
Brooklyn, NY 11201

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