A link blog about sex and sex culture
it dances
the blue spark between my tongue and her clit
just before
sizzling wire meets sizzling wire
just before
i forget my ideas of teasing
of coaxing her
(oh, how those ideas just melt away)
just before
the velvety smoothness of her lips
and the perfume of her sex
turn my head inside out
drawing me into her baptismal grace
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Regina Lynn writes:
A recent conference brought sex researchers together for four days to talk about what we do and don’t know about female sexuality, with the general consensus being we don’t know much. Perhaps because “it wasn’t until very recently that anyone thought to test those theories by asking women,” according to Judy Peres, who covered the sixth annual meeting of the International Society for the Study of Women ‘s Sexual Health for the Chicago Tribune.
The whole article is interesting, but one bit that stood out for me is the recognition that when Masters and Johnson were studying female sexuality, they mainly looked at women who were having a lot of sex and enjoying it. But now, we’re looking at what makes women dissatisfied with sex, whether desire can follow arousal instead of the other way around, what happens during orgasm and what we can do to help women want more sex more often. (I have some theories on that, myself.)
As we set scientists loose on women’s sexuality — and I think we should — we need to make sure not to forget that biology and bodies are only part of the equation. Sex tends to happen within a gigantic messy unquantifiable subjective realm known as “relating” and that is not going to submit easily to objective study.
Valentine’s Day Smut: Zaedryn and Rachel read their stories from ‘Best Lesbian Erotica 2007‘ (edited by Tristan Taormino and Emma Donoghue) at Bluestockings Cafe.
‘Under the Covers’ Premiere Party: Rachel Kramer Bussel, Christen Clifford and Lillian Ann Slugocki
Under the Covers Premiere party: Jamye Waxman (one of the stars of Under the Covers) and her brother Ian. Not shown, her beaming parents.
LONDON – Doctors shouldn’t shy away from asking patients about their sex lives, a new research paper advises.
Researchers say problems in the bedroom can translate into serious medical conditions, and ignoring sexual dysfunction may mean missing early indicators for heart failure, depression or other ailments, according to a paper published in Friday’s issue of The Lancet.
“Sex is a legitimate part of medicine, but it has largely been kept separate from the rest of medicine,†said Dr. Rosemary Basson, the paper’s lead author. Basson is based at the British Columbia Centre for Sexual Medicine in Vancouver. (more…)
