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FTG Erotic short film competition: The Female Gaze

To celebrate our 7th birthday,  For The Girls is holding an erotic film competition. Our aim is to discover new short films that depict an erotic subject from a female point of view.

THE FEMALE GAZE

The “gaze” is a term used to describe the way visual depictions present people and situations from a gendered perspective. Almost all mainstream movies and porn is presented with a male gaze; it assumes the audience is male and the camera acts like a man’s eye, looking at things as a man would.

The female gaze is the opposite. Films and photos shot using the female gaze speak to a female audience and depict a woman’s perspective.

Our short film competition aims to encourage the female gaze in erotic film.

THE COMPETITION

We are seeking original high quality short films up to 10 minutes in length that offer an erotic experience from a female perspective. Films do not have to be explicit but should deal with erotic or sexual themes in some way. Ideally we want to see arousing, thought-proving and moving films that capture a woman’s experience of sex or sexuality.

Entries don’t have to be made by professionals. First-time filmmakers are welcome. We are happy to see submissions from anyone with a desire to create good female-friendly erotic art.

Films should feature the official signature item, the number 7, in some way. The signature item can be peripheral or central to the story but it must be present in some form in order for the film to be eligible.

There are no fees to enter this competition.

THE PRIZES

First Prize is US$400 and a screening of the winning film at Cinekink Film Festival in New York in 2011.

Second Prize is US$100.

The top 5 films will also go onto Cinekink for automatic consideration in that festival.

The two winning films will feature prominently within the member’s area of For The Girls. We will also consider non-exclusively licensing other entries for use within the site.

DEADLINE

The Female Gaze erotic film competition officially opens on Monday June 14, 2010

Final deadline for entries is Monday, August 16, 2010

Winners will be announced on Monday August 30, 2010

More information: http://www.thefemalegaze.com/

sexlittlepole1 My Sexy Little Pole Professional Dancing Kit

Summer’s over.  And, this is the time of year that I try to find some alternative ways to exercise like join belly dance, Pilates and yoga classes.  But I live way in the country and there are not many interesting fitness classes available in my area.  I could sign up for erotic dance and pole dancing classes in the city but that’s two hours of driving there and back each time.  So, this year I decided to try out My Sexy Little Pole—Professional Dancing Kit from TabuToys.com.

My Sexy Little Pole comes in a long tube with the pole in three sections, hardware to attach it to your ceiling and floor, an instruction book and an instructional DVD.  The pole is simple to assemble and fits ceilings 7 ½ feet – 8 ½ feet.  My ceiling is actually just slightly over 8 ½ feet, so I have the pole extended to the max, yet it is still fairly sturdy.  The pole is constructed out of stainless steel and will hold up to 200 lbs, which I checked and got my partner to climb it.  He’s about 200 lbs.  It says that some shaking and movement on the pole is entirely normal and you do experience that.  They also warn you not to use it while intoxicated, probably a good tip!

As soon as I set it up I wanted to use it right away, so it does inspire you to get active.  I set it up in my office so I can take a break from sedentary sitting at the computer, and start dancing around the pole for a ½ hour each day.  Its pretty fun and I don’t feel like I’m exercising, even though my body feels the effects of it afterwards.

So, the first night after I had “erected” my pole, I put the instructional DVD in.  The girl in the video, Kate, is very fit and looks like she is most likely a professional pole dancer or instructor.  She shows you an entire routine, and then parts of it, so you can learn the basic moves.  The DVD is fairly amateurish, as the sound quality is terrible in some parts with the music blaring so loud you can’t hear her instructions.  Thanks goodness you can watch her and follow her moves, but I wasn’t impressed with this DVD.  It’s too bad they didn’t take the time to make a good quality DVD to go with the pole as otherwise, this would be an awesome product.

sexylittlepole2 My Sexy Little Pole Professional Dancing Kit

You can basically follow what she is doing however, as she shows each moves several times so you can try it as you watch.  Later on in the DVD she shows you some more advanced moves as well.  Most of the moves are simple, and require coordination rather than strength, so anyone could learn these.  I could also do one of the pole slides right away which was encouraging.  A few of the more advanced moves will take practice, and time as I build up the strength in my body and loose a few more pounds.

My Sexy Little Pole is a great pole for beginners and experts who want to try some erotic pole dancing right in their own home.  I have read that it is one of the sturdiest poles out there, next to Carmen Electra’s pole, but it is much cheaper.  I haven’t tried Carmen’s pole so can’t verify which is better, but can recommend My Sexy Little Pole as a good quality, strong pole that will get you started right away, in a matter of minutes.

Erotic Dancing for your Lover

erotic dancing for your lover My Sexy Little Pole Professional Dancing Kit

With My Sexy Little Pole, I also got “The Better Sex Guide to Erotic Dancing” DVD from Sinclair Institute so I could learn some other basic moves for erotic dancing.  This DVD doesn’t teach pole dancing, but erotic striptease, however I thought it would teach me a few things that I could apply to pole dancing.

This DVD wasn’t what I was expecting. It begins with a dance instructor (Carmen, but not Carmen Electra) who has a class of “real women” to whom she teaches a few erotic dance moves.  The classes are pretty short and don’t really teach you a lot.  You learn the basic strip-tease “walk”, stretching, floor work (like crawling on the floor) and how to use some props, but nothing really specific as in moves.  Then you watch the “real women” try these out themselves on their “real partners”.  They do their routines, which are fairly amateur, and then the rest is a soft-core sex scene.  I was like—Whoa! Wait a minute!  I thought this was a dance instruction DVD?  Well, it is but mostly it’s about erotic seduction and features soft-core porn.  The one thing I did like about this DVD as it showed women of all shapes and sizes doing an erotic striptease, so if you can body issues, you might be inspired by seeing the plump girl do her routine which was the best one of the bunch.  So, other than that, I wouldn’t say this DVD has any redeeming value and you certainly won’t learn too much erotic dancing from it, so fairly disappointing.

I do recommend My Sexy Little Pole however, and you can get it and “The Better Sex Guide to Erotic Dancing” DVD from TabuToys.com under Swinger’s Lifestyle Products and Erotic DVDs.

ashleyandkisha Ashley and Kisha

Like Comstock’s other films, “Ashley and Kisha” showcases an intimate relationship between two lovers, whose story is tender and unique.  Ashley and Kisha are two young women who met in college and became lovers.  Ashley is an out-and-proud lesbian, while Kisha considered herself “straight” and not interested in women, until she met Ashley.  During their interview, the women talk about how Kisha initially rebuffed Ashley’s “animal instinct” advances until she tried more “subtler” methods, “easing her way in” to Kisha’s consciousness until Kisha could no longer resist.

The two are a study in contrasts:  Kisha is very conservative, soft and voluptuous; Ashley out-spoken, confident and rebellious with a lean, athletic body.   Ashley takes control in the bedroom, awakening Kisha’s body to a rediscovery of pleasure, a pleasure that only another woman can know.  Both women admit that sex together is the best they ever had.

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Their story is sweet and amorous, their lovemaking playful, sensual and erotic.  “Ashley and Kisha” is delightful film about the rhapsody of young love between two women and their journey of new sexual discovery.

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 Regard Indescret Set

Have you ever wanted to dress up and play burlesque?  Or get dolled up for an erotic photo shoot in your private boudoir?  Well, Babeland is here to help your exhibitionist fantasies come true with their Regard Indescret Set of sexy accessories by Bijoux Indiscrets.

All items come is a lovely tin hat box which includes a luxurious ostrich feather boa, a pair of leather tasseled pasties, a pearl waist chain, and three ambiance candles to set the mood.  All items are of good quality.  The boa is thick and plush, the pasties easy to apply with double stick tape that is supplied, and the pearl belt fits up to 47″.  The pasties and belt come in a sleek classy box inside the tin and the candles are wrapped in a black organza bag.  This would also make a great gift if you wanted to give your lover a hint for a sexy photo shoot, or erotic strip-tease.

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This kit will really let your inner fashionista shine.  Whether you are taking photos of yourself or with your lover, this is a great way to heat things up for some naughty amusements later on.  Or have a girls night in and dress yourselves as sexy fashion divas.  Camera not included icon wink Regard Indescret Set


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By Frederick Kaufman

. . .For the past several weeks, (Barbara) Nitke had been running porn films side by side with Food Network shows, studying the parallels. She had also been analyzing the in-house ads, like a recent one for the network’s “Chocolate Obsession Weekend,” which promised to “tantalize your tastebuds.” In this spot a gorgeous model pushes a chocolate strawberry past parted lips as she luxuriates in a bubblebath. The suds shot dissolves into Food Network superstar Emeril Lagasse, who shakes his “Essence”—a trademarked blend of salt, paprika, black pepper, granulated garlic, and onion powder—into a pan of frothing pink goo. The camera moves into the frying pan and stays there. “There’s something very visceral about watching the food,” said Nitke. “It’s very tissue-y. It’s hard not to think of flesh when you’re looking at these closeups.”

Like sex porn, gastroporn addresses the most basic human needs and functions, idealizing and degrading them at the same time. “You watch porn saying, Yes, I could do that,” explained Nitke. “You dream that you’re there, but you know you couldn’t. The guy you’re watching on the screen, his sex life is effortless. He didn’t have to negotiate, entertain her, take her out to dinner. He walked in with the pizza. She was waiting and eager and hot for him.”

Which reminded me of my conversation with Food Network programming VP Bob Tuschman. “We create this sensual, lush world, begging you to be drawn into it,” Tuschman had said. “It’s a beautifully idealized world. Who wouldn’t want to be a part of that world?”

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Celebrating the Body Erotic for Women
October 5-7
New York City
Led by Alex Jade

I am excited to extend an invitation to you and the women you know to join in a circle of women for an opportunity to explore, discover and celebrate empowered sexuality, self-defined eroticism, spiritually integrated eros. You will feel welcomed into a safe, serious, and playful space where we respectfully honor boundaries and experience ourselves as
powerful, expressive and sacred.

In this weekend program of carefully designed embodiment practices women will:
- explore the innate wisdom of your body
- expand awareness, sensation and pleasure through conscious breath, movement, touch,
and communication, where each woman’s choices and rhythms are honored
- learn how to more deeply tune in to your body, mind, heart and spirit: to receive more
fully from yourself and others, and to give without losing yourself
- learn to give and receive full-body massage and to focus on the healing potential of
sensual/spiritual energy
- learn from your own and others’ unfolding, and feel awed witnessing and supporting our
uniqueness and commonalities

This full weekend workshop is for women of all ages and sexual orientations who are ready to learn about their own power to illuminate and enjoy sexuality.

More info: http://www.bodyelectric.org 

Jayden Devereux sez:

Pregnant sex is hot.

My bulbous-bellied, hormonally-horny spouse is pursuing me around the house, ramming her enormous nipples into my mouth, ravaging my genitalia ten times a week.

She’s usually a laid-back, bored type of lover, but lately, she can’t get enough meat in her oven.

Nobody told me pregnancy entailed passionate, crazy, kinky boinking like this — truth is, I feared my wife would just get fat, bossy, fetid, weepy, and frigid. I even stockpiled porn, bunkering up for nine months of wanking that I’m now too drained to even consider. (more. . . .)

Friday, April 13th – 7 pm

The Pioneer Theater and CineKink team up to present another evening of kinky movies, pizza and beer. Cutting across orientations to celebrate and explore a wide diversity of sexuality, the program will include:

Audience Choice Award – Best Documentary/CineKink 2006
VICE & CONSENT
Directed by Howard Scott Warshaw, 2006, USA, 56 minutes.
The candor, wit and wisdom of such prominent, long-standing members of the BDSM community as Midori, Jay Wiseman, Janet Hardy, Race Bannon, Cleo Dubois and Michael Blue, help shatter some popular myths about BDSM practice and its practitioners, looking instead at the gifts of intimacy that lie within.

preceded by
THE LINE BETWEEN
Directed by Jonathan Marten, 2006, USA, 24 minutes.
When straight-laced Meg is pulled inside the how-to BDSM video she has rented, she moves from voyeur to participant in an ‘Alice in Wonderland’ journey through the world of fetish.

A beer and pizza reception follows the screening for all ticket holders.

More info and tickets: http://www.cinekink.com/tour /pioneer/

LOCATION:
Pioneer Theater
155 E. Third Street (@ Avenue A)
NYC

ADMISSION:
$10; $6 seniors/students; 18+ only.

More info and advance tickets are at http://www.cinekink.com/tour/pioneer/

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ABOUT CINEKINK
Now in its fourth season, CineKink is an annual film festival and national screening tour that celebrates and explores the wide diversity of sexuality. Presented by CineKink, an organization dedicated to the recognition and encouragement of kink-positive depictions in film and television, works showcased by the festival range from documentary to drama, camp comedy to hot porn – and everything in between.

DO 2006PC1 Were going to Spring FireRemember how Jefferson, Selina, Marcus and I went to Dark Odyssey’s summer camp?

Remember what clueless, trembling, newbies we were? Hell, at least I was. Now, we are going to be presenting at Dark Odyssey’s Spring Fire. How hilarious is that?

We’ll be doing a panel on sex blogging. I will be moderating. Wish me luck – moderating this group could be like herding cats. Between us, our blogs cover a diverse range of interests (as Jefferson dubbed us, the doyenne, the hippie, the whore and the slut) and raise a multitude of issues (creating characters, privacy, anonymity, propriety).

I’ll also be teaching a workshop called ‘Everything You Need to Know about Becoming a Sex Blogger (But Were Afraid to Ask).’ It’ll cover question such as:

  • Should I have a blog?
  • What is this ‘blogging’ thing?
  • How do I get on the internets?
  • Sure, I have a blog, but how do readers find me?
  • Should I write as myself, or under a pseudonym?

I’ll have a lot of tips and tools for setting up a blog, finding inspiration and writing well and building readership in this highly interactive medium. If you’re promoting a book or project, I have lots of idea about how to get the word out.

Jefferson and Marcus will be doing sessions on orgy organizing and etiquette (‘Naked in a Crowd’) and on male bisexuality (‘Odd Man In’). I plan on sitting at the back of the room and heckling them. ;-D

And Selina’s cooking up a a fun icebreaker event.

Tristan has posted the complete workshop list on the Dark Odyssey website.

See you at Spring Fire!

Rocking on Jack sent a fresh surge of sensations spiraling through me. Where did jealousy go? Far away. My focus became Jack’s cock inside of me—and the tableau before us. Because suddenly Alex and Vanessa seemed more like an act put on for our pleasure than a real flesh-and-blood couple mere feet away. Not just any couple, of course, as the male was one I so intimately knew.

And yet… I could see what it would be like to be royalty, to be able to command a show for one’s personal enjoyment. I suppose in a way I thought I understood what it was like to be Jack.

He hardly moved beneath me. Yes, I could feel his cock—so hard that I was breathless from almost the first thrust—but he wasn’t working me, wasn’t bouncing me on his lap. Just rocking, his hips lifting me in gentle waves, his hands on my waist, holding me steady. We watched together, watched as the voyeurs moved closer yet, so that there were people on the bed with Alex and Vanessa. And not just viewing any more, but participating.

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11 InFocus Girls

The Lambda Literary Awards are presented in 25 categories. Click on a category below to see the nominees for this year’s awards. Nominations were accepted between September 1 and December 1, 2006.

Finalists in each category will be announced by March 1, 2007. Winners in each category will be announced on Thursday, May 31, at the Lambda Literary Awards Ceremony in New York City.

Anthology | Arts & Culture | Bisexual | Childrens/Young Adult
Drama/Theater |Humor | LGBT Nonfiction | LGBT Studies
Sci-Fi/Fantasy/Horror | Spirituality | Transgender

Lesbian Fiction | Lesbian Romance | Lesbian Mystery | Lesbian Poetry
Lesbian Memoir/Biography | Lesbian Erotica | Lesbian Debut Fiction

Gay Fiction | Gay Romance | Gay Mystery | Gay Poetry
Gay Memoir/Biography | Gay Erotica | Debut Gay Fiction

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Koika Met Art

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