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Lesbian Sex Mafia presents Unscheduled Maintenance: Keeping your SM Relationship Purring with Laura Antoniou and Kim Attica (Annual All Genders workshop)

by Viviane on 11/12/2025

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34791 10150097277521019 693826018 7282196 5374890 n Lesbian Sex Mafia presents Unscheduled Maintenance: Keeping your SM Relationship Purring with Laura Antoniou and Kim Attica (Annual All Genders workshop)Kim Attica and Laura Antoniou – ten years in a DS relationship as of 2013 – will discuss tried and true methods of keeping all participants in an SM relationship feeling nourished and cherished, how to handle slight upsets and occasional crises with humor and caring; and how to keep an eye on what makes the relationship special and worthy. While some of the content here may be thought of as “little things mean a lot,” the presenters will show how so many of the so-called “little things” are as vital to the happy functioning of a relationship as oil changes are to maintaining your car. Bring your experiences with what makes your relationship tick, or what made it break down, and we’ll share insights into the good, the bad and the sadly mistaken.

Where: LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave) Our annual workshop at which all genders are welcome
When: Friday, November 15, 2013; 8:00-10:00PM
Cost: $5/LSM members, $10/Non members

ABOUT LAURA ANTONIOU

Laura Antoniou is the author of the well known Marketplace series of erotic novels. As a presenter, panelist, and keynote speaker, Laura has appeared at dozens of conferences over more than twenty years, both entertaining and delivering an occasional verbal indictment. She has also appeared at colleges and universities, including NYU, Rutgers, Columbia and the University of Washington. Laura lives in Queens, NY with her wife Karen, and happily serves as boy to Kim Attica. Friends have called her all sorts of names. Current favorites being “Renaissance Perv” by Midori, “Good Boy!” by Kim and of course, “best thing that ever happened to me” by Karen.

Recent publications include “The Killer Wore Leather,” a murder mystery set at a Manhattan convention devoted to BDSM, “The Reunion”, the 5th novel in the acclaimed Marketplace series and “Scenes from The Marketplace,” a collection of all of her Marketplace-themed short stories.

ABOUT LESBIAN SEX MAFIA

About Lesbian Sex Mafia
Lesbian Sex Mafia (http://www.lesbiansexmafia.org) (LSM) is a social and educational organization for women and transfolk who have a positive personal interest in BDSM with other women. Our tenets are safety, consensuality, confidentiality and the right of women to explore their  sexuality as they choose.

Membership in Lesbian Sex Mafia is open to all women 18 years of age or older including gay, straight, bi, and transsexual and intersexed women who live their daily lives as women, and all female-born transgendered persons who have a connection with and respect for the women’s community. For membership information and benefits please visit http://www.lesbiansexmafia.org.

LSM reserves the right to deny admission to non-members it has reason to believe will not abide by the LSM principles of safety, consensuality and confidentiality.

No member is turned away from an LSM event based upon ability to pay. Please contact us in advance to request a scholarship.

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Who Was the Real Woman Behind “Nine and a Half Weeks”? (The New Yorker)

by Viviane on 12/18/2024

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At a moment when erotica is mainstream, and when the issue of who controls a woman’s body has never been more relevant, “Nine and a Half Weeks,” and its frank, poetic treatment of illicit sex, has lost none of its disturbing power. But what’s stranger is that Day chose to reveal even more disquieting aspects about herself under her real name than she ever did with a nom de plume. Examining “Ghost Waltz” and “Nine and a Half Weeks” in tandem, we see a woman whose identity is divided in two.

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Reading “Ghost Waltz” and “Nine and a Half Weeks” side by side, Day’s vulnerabilities come shimmering into view. Both books examine the consequences of relationships marked by withholding—be it her lover’s effortless domineering humiliation or her parents’ shutting the door on discussing Herr Seiler’s deep-seated Nazi ties. The absence and emotional deprivation that young Ingeborg detects and learns to live with permeated her adult life, and must have been tied up with her brief but toxic relationship, in which submissive infatuation was mistaken for something more. The pair of books allow us access to Day’s mind, demonstrating her obsessive need for order in the face of extreme emotional chaos. But they also offer insight into a particular moment in history ripe for both a self-excusing memoir of a Nazi past and a self-punishing memoir of sexual obsession. The prolonged social upheaval of the decade threw secrets into the light and enabled the discussion of formerly taboo topics. To pilfer from the title of one of the more popular self-help books of the period, if Day’s book-length confessions enabled her to be O.K., then perhaps we could be similarly O.K. with our own darkest fears and desires.

Read more: http://www.newyorker.com/online/blogs/books/2012/11/who-was-the-real-woman-behind-nine-and-a-half-weeks.html#ixzz2FNkDjAR3

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SexGeek: crazy and criminal: on those damn books, and why they matter

by Viviane on 10/12/2024

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From Andrea Zanin’s keynote for Carleton University’s Consent is Sexy Week:

But all right, for real this time, back to the perverts. Now, regardless of everything I’ve said so far about Fifty Shades, I think the series provides a very accurate picture of how the mainstream understands consent, and how that understanding tries, with mixed success, to incorporate the ethics of consent that’s often espoused by BDSM communities. I’ve asked around a fair bit to find out what it is that the perv contingent is most upset about. Once you get past the rants about writing quality, most of the complaints seem to hinge on the idea that Christian Grey is doing bad BDSM, and that it makes the rest of us look bad. People are especially about two areas: the contract he tries to get Ana to sign and the play they get up to. These complaints are going to form the foundation of the rest of this talk, because they’re both right on the money and also off base. And the ways in which they are both of those things are in keeping with the books’ understanding of sex and relationships in general. So let me lay out that understanding and talk about how it is emblematic of a broader social framework that’s very problematic.

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But mostly I dislike Fifty Shades because it normalizes assault, stalking, the use of money as a form of coercion, jealousy, rage, “winning” arguments, men’s control of women’s reproductive choices, game-playing, manipulation, marriage as the end goal and as the great legitimizer of relationships, lack of honest communication, and the healing power of innocent virgins’ inherent goodness. None of this is the least bit kinky—it’s just plain old hetero-patriarchal power relationships, and sexing those up in a best-selling “edgy” romance trilogy does nothing more than perpetuate an entire culture where “consent” takes a backseat to “normal.” This isn’t kinky or sexy or cool. So no matter how well-researched the BDSM technique, the relationships and politics that forms the core of this story are deeply unhealthy, and I fervently hope that they’re not going to become erotic templates for a generation of people who think they’re being sexy and oh-so-wickedly perverted.

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Laura Antoniou’s “50 Shades of Sellout”

by Viviane on 04/13/2024

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Laura Antoniou, author of The Marketplace series of BDSM erotica, posted a parody of “50 Shades of Grey” last night.  Beverage spew alert – don’t be drinking while reading this.

Like. O. M. G. There he was, so freaking hot. In his leather pants from Dolce and Gabanna and his black silk shirt and really expensive black tie and black jacket and black diamond stick pin through the really expensive black tie and his ink black hair and jet black eyes and his big feet in big, black boots, oh, he was so into black.

“you’re Tiffany,” he murmured as he leaned in toward her, gracefully looking at her plunging cleavage, and her heaving alabaster breasts.

He was so tall! Even with her lithe 5’7″ frame enhanced by those 4″ heels, he was at least a foot taller! And his piercing black eyes pierced her to her very soul.

“I…I…” Tiffany stammered, letting her booze popsicle drip, drip, drip down her hand to splat, splat, splat on the floor. She bit her full, ruby red lips in luscious lasciviousness.

“I’m disgustingly rich and dominant,” he sneered dominantly. “you will be Mine!”

“Oh, wow,” Tiffany seized. “Um. Wow. OK. Sure. What does that mean, exactly?”

“I have a checklist!” he said triumphantly, while texting an URL to her. “Go to My Web Page and fill it out, and tell Me whether you like, dislike, or are neutral about the 300 activities and fetishes listed there, and whether you’ve done them before and with whom, and what you thought about it, and then rate them on a scale of 1-10 on whether you’d like to do it now, tomorrow, next week, or after the Mayan Apocalypse.”

“Um,” Tiffany coughed out, a delicate flush gathering on her porcelain features, her beautiful, full lips, her high, sculpted cheekbones, her delicately feathered eyebrows and her oh-so-cute upturned nose. “But I’m sure I haven’t done anything on your list at all! Despite being an adult in 2012, working at your huge corporation and having been through some form of schooling, I am still completely virginal and know nothing at all about kinky sex! I am beautiful, though.”

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Lesbian Sex Mafia presents Play Piercing with Mistress Trish

by Viviane on 09/14/2025

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MistressTrish 200x300 Lesbian Sex Mafia presents Play Piercing with Mistress Trish

What’s not to love about penetrating someone or being penetrated by someone with needles? Join Mistress Trish as she shares her enthusiasm for temporary piercing. Whether you are new to piercing or an experienced piercing top or bottom this class is for you. Trish will cover the basics of needle play as well as some of the more advanced ways to safely incorporate needles into your scenes.

Where: LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave)
Cost: $5/LSM members, $10/Non members

About Mistress Trish

When not being extraordinarily sweet and/or/but extraordinarily sadistic for kicks, Mistress Trish is a pro-Domme, a maker of Femme Domme porn, and a kink, relationship, and sexuality educator.

About Lesbian Sex Mafia

Founded in 1981 by Dorothy Allison and Jo Arnone, the Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM) is the oldest continuously running women’s BDSM support and education groups in the country. We are located in New York City, with a membership primarily in the tri-state area of New York, New Jersey and Connecticut. However, we also have members along the East Coast, across the country and even in Europe!

LSM is a support and information group for all women 18 years of age or older, including transexual and intersexed women who live their daily lives as women and all female-born transgender people who feel they have a connection with and respect for the women’s community. And, who are interested in fantasy and role playing, bondage, discipline, S/M, fetishes, costumes, alternate gender identities and uninhibited sexual expression in a safe, sane, consensual and confidential way.

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