For a new book about marriage and sex, Anataomy of a Marriage, Gail Konop Baker is seeking to interview married women who have had affairs:
I’m trying to solicit interviews from married women who have had affairs for my new book proposal. I posted it on my status on facebook and on Twitter and have had only one response. Considering I’ve read in several recent studies that 45-55% of married women are having or have had affairs (more than double in the past 10 years!), I find it interesting (strange? telling?) that I haven’t had more responses. Any thoughts on how where I could get women to open up to me about this? Any suggestions would be appreciated!
Please email her at gkonopbaker at gmail dot com
About Gail Konop Baker
Gail Konop Baker’s work is published or forthcoming in Literary Mama, Talking River Review, The Potomac, Mota, The Danforth Review, Madison Magazine, Yankee Pot Roast, Wisconsin Trails, Xanadu, Womansong, Pudding Magazine, Glass Review, and an anthology funded by the Ohio Arts Council. Her Literary Mama column “Bare-breasted Mama” made its debut in October of 2006.
Gail’s memoir, Cancer is a Bitch: Or, I’d Rather Be Having A Midlife Crisis was published by Da Capo Press, October 2008. She has also written two novels, Waitress Of The Month and Paris Smells Like Rotten Eggs. Her short story, “My Religious Education,” won third place in the Madison Magazine Short Fiction Contest, chosen by Jane Hamilton, was also a Glimmer Train Top 25 Fiction Open Finalist, a finalist in the 2006 New Millennium Fiction competition and a semi-finalist in the Boston Fiction Festival 2007 contest.
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. . . The most consistent data on infidelity come from the General Social Survey, sponsored by the National Science Foundation and based at the University of Chicago, which has used a national representative sample to track the opinions and social behaviors of Americans since 1972. The survey data show that in any given year, about 10 percent of married people — 12 percent of men and 7 percent of women — say they have had sex outside their marriage.
But detailed analysis of the data from 1991 to 2006, to be presented next month by Dr. Atkins at the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies conference in Orlando, show some surprising shifts. University of Washington researchers have found that the lifetime rate of infidelity for men over 60 increased to 28 percent in 2006, up from 20 percent in 1991. For women over 60, the increase is more striking: to 15 percent, up from 5 percent in 1991.
The researchers also see big changes in relatively new marriages. About 20 percent of men and 15 percent of women under 35 say they have ever been unfaithful, up from about 15 and 12 percent respectively.
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…My point is that we don’t really know exactly what she knew. And there is no point in continuing to kick her now. What people do in the dynamics of a marriage is really their business. After the camera takes the confession, after the public figure is humiliated, after we all shake our heads and say “how is it possible these guys think it will never be discovered?” (Do politicians no longer study history, despite their hubris colored glasses?) it’s time for us to back away from the bleeding body of the wife.
In fact, how about this theory? Has anyone considered that she didn’t know anything in 2006, but in the face of all of this media attention, in all the hideous accusations that are raining down on a family with three innocent kids, perhaps she decided to present a united front and look like an “enabler” to protect them, not him. To make it go away faster. Because really it’s all a mess.
Lee Woodruff: In Defense of Elizabeth Edwards and Other Enablers [Updated].
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By: Michael Washburn
“It’s not the cheating, it’s the lyingâ€â€”or so goes our national post-affair mantra. But of course, it’s the cheating. The cheating is the lying, as much as it’s the sex. (If you aren’t lying, you’re not cheating: You’re swinging.) We know the distinction between the physical act of sex and the illocutionary act of lying is false, yet this is the first line in the last act of every American domestic tragedy. It’s what betrayed spouses are supposed to say when confronted with their wayward partners, and it sets the stage for scenes filled with apology, contrition and, oddly, the detailed recitation of each liaison. It’s like this everywhere, right?
Lust in Translation: The Rules of Infidelity from Tokyo to Tennessee, former Wall Street Journal reporter Pamela Druckerman’s witty, engaging exploration of comparative infidelity, answers this question with an emphatic No. Every country has its adulterers—some more than others—but each culture’s cuckoldry has a flair all its own.
“Infidelity,†Ms. Druckerman writes, “isn’t just ubiquitous, it’s revealing.†From the status-anxious cafés of the Upper East Side to Moscow’s bureaucratic institutes of sexology to the stimulacra of Tokyo’s “pervert trains,†she exposes styles of infidelity as varied as the names used to describe them—“going strange,†“pinching the cat in the dark,†“a tied-up mare eats, too,†“standing in two boats at once.†Ms. Druckerman dramatizes the desire-driven lives of, among others, Williamsburg’s frustrated Hasidim, Indonesia’s bored wives and the torpid yi lais who inhabit China’s concubine villages. (more…)
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