November 2012

 

Rituals are a key part of any D/s relationship, whether we acknowledge them or not. From casual kisses as the door to formal slave poses, ritual objects such as collars to slave contracts, the BDSM world is rife with concepts of ritual- but what is a ritual? What are the levels of ritualistic interaction we have between one another? Let’s look at rituals for day to day life (including how to get out of work or parent space), sacred time, intense connection, erotic play, solidifying relationships, changes within our relationships, and the taboo subject of the devastating loss of a relationship or its natural end. From terminology to developing your own code of ethical interaction, this class covers a bevy of styles and types of interpersonal reactions.

Where: The LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave), New York, NY
Date/Time: Friday December 21, 2012, 8:00-10:00 PM
Cost: LSM Members: $5/Non Members: $10
Fetlife RSVP: https://fetlife.com/events/137594

About Lee Harrington

Lee Harrington is an internationally known spiritual and erotic educator, gender explorer, eclectic artist and award-winning author and editor on human sexuality and sacred experience. He is a nice guy with a disarmingly down to earth approach to the fact that we are each beautifully complex ecosystems, and we deserve to examine the human experience from that lens. He’s been traveling the globe (from Seattle to Sydney, Berlin to Boston), teaching and talking about sexuality, psychology, faith, desire and more, and has no intention to stop any time soon. He has been an academic and an adult film performer, a world class sexual adventurer, an outspoken philosopher, is a kink/bondage expert, and has been blogging about sex and spirituality since 1998.

His books include “Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Negotiating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities” (with Mollena Williams), “Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond,” “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé,” the “Toybag Guide to Age Play,” and “Shed Skins: Journeying in Self-Portraits.” He has also worked as an anthology editor on such projects as “Rope, Bondage, and Power” and “Spirit of Desire: Personal Explorations of Sacred Kink,” while contributing actively to other anthologies, magazines, blogs and collaborations internationally. Check out the trouble Lee has been getting into, as well as his regular podcast, tour schedule, free essays, videos and more over at www.PassionAndSoul.com.

About Lesbian Sex Mafia
Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM) is a social and educational organization for women and transfolk who have a positive personal interest in BDSM with other women. Our tenets are safety, consensuality, confidentiality and the right of women to explore their  sexuality as they choose.

Membership in Lesbian Sex Mafia is open to all women 18 years of age or older including gay, straight, bi, and transsexual and intersexed women who live their daily lives as women, and all female-born transgendered persons who have a connection with and respect for the women’s community. For membership information and benefits please visit http://www.lesbiansexmafia.org.

LSM reserves the right to deny admission to non-members it has reason to believe will not abide by the LSM principles of safety, consensuality and confidentiality.

For ASL interpretation request please email LSMNYC@hotmail.com.

No member is turned away from an LSM event based upon ability to pay. Please contact us in advance to request a scholarship.

Please join us to celebrate the publication of Mark Michaels & Patricia Johnson’s Great Sex made Simple and Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades, edited by Lori Perkins. Books will be available for purchase, and authors will be available to sign. We’re also collecting donations to benefit the Ali Forney Center for homeless LGBT youth, which was destroyed by Hurricane Sandy.

Location: Happy Ending Lounge, 302 Broome St. (Pink awning says “Xie He Health”)
Cost: FREE
Dress code: STREET
Facebook RSVP: https://www.facebook.com/events/412767538786770/
Fetlife RSVP: https://fetlife.com/events/127340

The Pleasure Salon has been created to build community, allowing sex-positive activists to cross-pollinate. Our gatherings bring together members of the BDSM, swinger, alternative gender, LGBTQ, sex-activist, sex educator, nudist, sex-magic, polyamory, Pagan, radical faerie, tantra,  sex-blogger, porn, pervert and sex-worker communities, and others whose passion is sex. (Let us know if we missed any one of you!) Through building networks in the sex-positive community, The Pleasure Salon hopes to help create a sex-positive world. It is a place for the open exchange of ideas and sensual expression.

Join us in building New York’s pleasure positive community, and bring your like-minded friends to this social gathering. The Pleasure Salon embraces respect, acceptance, and non-judgmental support in this public space.

Please friend “Patricia Selina Mark” on FaceBook or join the Pleasure Salon group on Facebook or FetLife to communicate with other attendees.

In pleasure,

Patricia Johnson, Selina Fire & Mark Michaels

All Friends in the Leather & Fetish Community,

Leather Pride Night has brought the New York area BDSM/Leather/Fetish community together for 29 years. Known as LPN, for short, it was a see-and-be-seen event for leatherfolk from across the country. Amust-attend for IML and ImsL, LPN’s auction, flea markets, raffles and boot-blacking raised thousands of dollars for NYC-area gay, women, AIDS and youth charities and from time-to time raised money for NSCF, legal and First Amendment movement funds. Hundreds of people volunteered, carried, built, moved and sold hundreds of garments, tickets, furniture and toys. But right now, LPN is at a crossroads.

The committee is suffering from a lack of new members. The New York leather scene has changed dramatically in the past three decades, with organizations dwindling or going defunct. Bars and clubs closing and the cost of producing LPN in time, energy and money has skyrocketed, as the actual funds made available for giving has decreased.

So what is the future of Leather Pride Night? Will there be an LPN XXX? What form or forms will it take? Who will volunteer this year? Should it just stop altogether? That’s where you come in.

At 8pm, on Wednesday, November 14, 2012, the Leather Pride Night committee will be holding an open forum & town hall to take suggestions, hear comments and, potentially, infuse new blood into this community institution.

We want to see & hear from YOU! Be there! Be heard!
The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center
208 West 13th Street Room 301
New York, NY 10011
8pm, on Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Facebook RSVP: https://www.facebook.com/events/128906223928925/

Fetlife RSVP: https://fetlife.com/events/132260

 

New relationship energy can propel a couple into a phenomenal experiential phase of sexual energy—bursts of passion, exploration, and intensity. Long term relationships, however, face the day-to-day life navigation of bills, scheduling, job and career difficulties or changes, disappointments, changes, and grief. How do we build a long term relationship that keeps the passion alive? How do we ensure we have enough time for our partner(s), and for ourselves? How do we both separate from our partner to have our own rich inner life and come back together to build a loving bond? And what kind of kinky play can be used to keep the fire going? We’ll explore all of these concepts and more at this interactive workshop.

Where: The LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave), New York, NY
Date/Time: Friday November 16, 8:00-10:00 PM
Cost: LSM Members: $5/Non Members: $10

ABOUT Sinclair Sexsmith
Sinclair Sexsmith (mrsexsmith.com) writes the award-winning personal online project Sugarbutch Chronicles: The Sex, Gender, and Relationship Adventures of a Kinky Queer Butch Top at sugarbutch.net. They have contributed to more than a dozen anthologies, and is the editor of Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica. They teach workshops on gender and sexuality throughout the US, including at various colleges.

About Lesbian Sex Mafia
Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM) is a social and educational organization for women and transfolk who have a positive personal interest in BDSM with other women. Our tenets are safety, consensuality, confidentiality and the right of women to explore their  sexuality as they choose.

Membership in Lesbian Sex Mafia is open to all women 18 years of age or older including gay, straight, bi, and transsexual and intersexed women who live their daily lives as women, and all female-born transgendered persons who have a connection with and respect for the women’s community. For membership information and benefits please visit http://www.lesbiansexmafia.org.

LSM reserves the right to deny admission to non-members it has reason to believe will not abide by the LSM principles of safety, consensuality and confidentiality.

For ASL interpretation request please email LSMNYC@hotmail.com.

No member is turned away from an LSM event based upon ability to pay. Please contact us in advance to request a scholarship.

Photo credit: Syd London

DomSubFriends will host an insightful and scintillating event on E.L. James’ Fifty Shades trilogy at Paddles S&M club. There will be a Fifty Shades of Play BDSM demonstration, followed by a panel discussion featuring contributors to Smart Pop’s latest title, Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades of Grey (available everywhere books are sold on November 20).

Join Dominant ChrisMarks and his submissive and romantic partner Lia as they explain what each of them gets from their BDSM relationship. Their demonstration will include sensation play with some pain, restraint, spanking, flogging, and will end with whipping, followed by aftercare.

The panel portion of the evening will include a diverse group of expert panelists:

  • Moderator: Lori Perkins, editor of Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades of Grey, publisher of Riverdale Avenue Books, and editor of 20 erotic anthologies
  • Sinnamon Love, former porn star and BDSM Dominant
  • D.L. King, erotic romance author and BDSM lifestyle participant
  • Pamela Madsen, author of bestselling submissive memoir Shameless, and women’s health and sexuality advocate
  • Selina Fire, host of the monthly Pleasure Salon, a kinky cocktail party, and sex writer
  • Stacey Agdern, bookseller at Posman Books in the Grand Central Terminal and romance reviewer
  • Mala Battacharjee, erotic romance writer and Romantic Times Book Reviews staff member
  • Susan Colón, romance novelist and O, The Oprah Magazine contributor
  • Megan Frampton, romance novelist and Heroes and Heartbreakers romance blog moderator
  • Debra Hyde, winner of the 2011 Best Lesbian Erotica Lambda Literary Award for her BDSM tale Story of L
  • Rachel Kenley, erotic romance author and editor
  • Katharine Sands, literary agent
  • Hope Tarr, PhD, historical and contemporary romance author

When: Friday, November 16th at Paddles
Time: 7:45 PM – 9:45 PM (doors open 7:30 PM)
Address: Paddles, 250 West 26th Street, NYC (Btw: 7th/8th Ave)

Facebook RSVP: https://www.facebook.com/events/507774242579804/

Fetlife RSVP: https://fetlife.com/events/135803
18+ years old to attend

About Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades of Grey

—-“Fascinating examination of E.L. James’s Fifty Shades trilogy . . . Love Fifty Shades or hate it, this engaging and eclectic read has a little bit of something for everyone.”
 —Publishers Weekly starred review

E. L. James’ Fifty Shades trilogy has fascinated and seduced millions of readers. In bedrooms, in book clubs, and in the media, people can’t stop talking about it!

In Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades of Grey, 50 writers—from romance and erotica authors, to real-world BDSM practitioners, to adult entertainment industry professionals—continue the conversation with sections on Fifty Shades as erotic fiction, sexual empowerment, fanfiction, and pop culture.

Book Details: Title: Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades of Grey
Editor: Lori Perkins
Publisher: Smart Pop (An Imprint of BenBella Books), distributed by Perseus Distribution
Publication: November 20, 2012, $14.95 (CAN $17.50),

More information is available at the publisher page:

http://www.smartpopbooks.com/book/fifty-writers-on-fifty-shades-of-grey

About DomSubFriends Meetings & Socials

Everyone 18+ years old is welcomed to attend.
All meetings are $4 for DSF, $6 for affiliate members, and $10 for non members.

DomSubFriends parties are held the 4th Friday of each month.
DomSubFriends meetings are held the 1st and 3rd Friday of each month at Paddles; the World’s longest running BDSM club.
Address: #250 West 26th Street, NYC (Bet: 7th/8th Ave)-entrance through the parking lot.

Paddles management is gracious to offer all male attendees of DSF meetings a 50% discount (only $20) to stay afterwards when the club opens to their guests at 10 PM. Females can stay after the meeting at only $5, providing they are members of DomSubFriends (or affiliate group); otherwise it’s $10 to stay.

For savings to DSF meetings, affiliate meetings, fetish vendors and S&M clubs, take a look at our website. Discover the many benefits of becoming a DSF member via the net or in person at one of our meetings.

On a separate Note:
If any BDSM or Alternative Lifestyle group would like to post their events on our website calendar, get a password by dropping us a note.

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DSF E-mail: DomSubFriends@aol.com
DSF tele: 646-319-2780