April 2012

Lilya | Sailboat

by Viviane on 04/16/2024

in galleries

Full gallery

  • Fun in Getting Taken Out of Context | Feministe

    I often avoid writing about this stuff because it devolves into a downward spiral of stupid. “This proves that women want to be dominated!” “No, as long as someone finds it erotic, it’s ok and we have no right to look at this in the context of a misogynist culture!” “BDSM is freaky and for perverts!” “No, people who practice BDSM are always responsible and it’s never abusive!” etc etc etc.

  • Romance, Arousal, and Condescension | Blog | Smart Bitches, Trashy Books | Romance Novel Reviews | All of the Romance, None of the Bullshit.  

    I think the real temptation and curiosity for those people and many, many others was that many women were saying “This is great for my sex life. This is great for my marriage.” Better sex? Who is saying no to that?!…I certainly wouldn’t, though 50 Shades did not crank my engine the way it has for so many other women. But I remain stunned by the fact that yet again we’re repeating the same assumptions, and answering with the same assertions. We cannot examine female arousal without demeaning condescension. And that is a shame. I wish it were possible to speak candidly about what books turned women on, and why. It would be fascinating to see what those books have in common, and why some work and some don’t.

  • The Soapbox: Actually, Katie Roiphe, Feminists Are Not Perplexed About Submissive Sex | Jessica Wakeman | The Frisky

    Free will is very much present in submissive sex, which, let’s not forget, is acting out a fantasy. In fact, if it is done right, the very act of negotiating a dominant/submissive play session is a choice and is about as far from abuse as possible. Longtime partners and kinkier BDSM folks may play with total, I-place-myself-completely-in-your-hands submission (The Story of O comes to mind), but for the rest of us this “surrender” is beautifully negotiated, even planned. That is because most partners — the responsible ones — approach each other as equals. Equal dignity, equal respect, equal attempts at pleasure. Dominance and submission does not mean some animals are more equal than others. Sexual subjugation in the realm of sexual fantasy does not erase outside-the-bedroom equality — unless, of course, one wants it to, but that, too, will be negotiated.

Laura Antoniou, author of The Marketplace series of BDSM erotica, posted a parody of “50 Shades of Grey” last night.  Beverage spew alert – don’t be drinking while reading this.

Like. O. M. G. There he was, so freaking hot. In his leather pants from Dolce and Gabanna and his black silk shirt and really expensive black tie and black jacket and black diamond stick pin through the really expensive black tie and his ink black hair and jet black eyes and his big feet in big, black boots, oh, he was so into black.

“you’re Tiffany,” he murmured as he leaned in toward her, gracefully looking at her plunging cleavage, and her heaving alabaster breasts.

He was so tall! Even with her lithe 5’7″ frame enhanced by those 4″ heels, he was at least a foot taller! And his piercing black eyes pierced her to her very soul.

“I…I…” Tiffany stammered, letting her booze popsicle drip, drip, drip down her hand to splat, splat, splat on the floor. She bit her full, ruby red lips in luscious lasciviousness.

“I’m disgustingly rich and dominant,” he sneered dominantly. “you will be Mine!”

“Oh, wow,” Tiffany seized. “Um. Wow. OK. Sure. What does that mean, exactly?”

“I have a checklist!” he said triumphantly, while texting an URL to her. “Go to My Web Page and fill it out, and tell Me whether you like, dislike, or are neutral about the 300 activities and fetishes listed there, and whether you’ve done them before and with whom, and what you thought about it, and then rate them on a scale of 1-10 on whether you’d like to do it now, tomorrow, next week, or after the Mayan Apocalypse.”

“Um,” Tiffany coughed out, a delicate flush gathering on her porcelain features, her beautiful, full lips, her high, sculpted cheekbones, her delicately feathered eyebrows and her oh-so-cute upturned nose. “But I’m sure I haven’t done anything on your list at all! Despite being an adult in 2012, working at your huge corporation and having been through some form of schooling, I am still completely virginal and know nothing at all about kinky sex! I am beautiful, though.”

Read the full piece:

Facebook

Fetlife

Midori by Steve Diet Goedde

 

WASHINGTON DC

Sat. 4/14 – Sun 4/15 Weekend w/Midori | DC Rope Art

Sat 4/14 “Kinesthetic Rope” & “Passionate Dynamic Play”
Sun 4/15 “Speed & Flow Drills” & “Predicament Bondage”

More info: https://fetlife.com/events/93063/v2

NEW YORK

Thu 4/19 “Pink Japan: Contemporary Sex Culture” | Museum of Sex

What exotic erotic adventures happen behind the closed doors of Japan? Come to this fascinating presentation and find out!

From cuisine, music, fashion, technology to anime, Japan’s cultural influences on the West is immense. In many ways the Japanese erotic cultures also influence today’s Western tastes. Yet the daily realities of Japan’s sexual habits, sexual consumer culture, gender relations, and sensual subcultures world remain hidden to us, creating an aura of mystique. In this funny and insightful presentation, join Midori for a double-expatriate’s personal tour of Japan’s hidden sexual culture today. Come early to browse through her collection of naughty magazines, rare books, unusual flyers and other goodies from Japan. Midori is a Kyoto born, Tokyo-raised, Japanese-American author and sex educator based in San Francisco. She is well versed with the contradiction that is 21st Century Japan and possesses a keen insight into culture and sexuality.

More info/tickets: http://bit.ly/HBRm2k

Tue 4/24 “Aural Sex: Seduction by Voice” | Long Island Leather N Roses

The Geishas and Courtesans were masters of the art of seduction. Their most potent skill was the use of the erotic voice and sensual story telling. Learn how to use the hypnotic magic of the voice to seduce and arouse your lover long before you enter the bedroom. Incorporating seductive voice techniques learned in this class to heat up the bedroom and add spice to your erotic life. Mesmerize your lover and transport both of you to an erotic landscape. Learn how to build and enrich a powerful fantasy, practice effective voice techniques and spellbinding. You’ll learn techniques of finding out yours and your lovers fantasy, practice story telling skills and improve them with Midori’s gentle guidance. Spicy demos, practical exercises, tips. Delightful class for couples and singles

More info: http://bit.ly/InCPIX

Wed 4/25  “Rope: Flow & Speed Drills” | The Iron Bell Academy, Astoria

Description: Whether you’re an expert or have only taken one rope bondage class, this experience will help to make your rope play more confident, smooth and intuitive. This class will cover essential skills for fluid, effective and graceful motion in tying. Great flow and speed skills add to dynamic scenes with power emotional and play potential, increases confidence, allows for greater creative thinking and connection with your partner. After the initial discussion, the students will break into pairs for series of timed drills and challenges. These are non-competitive exercises designed to increase your speed and confidence while identifying areas to improve. Everyone will be asked to, and will be expected to do the exercises.

More info/tickets: http://bit.ly/IblMpT

TH 4/26  “Humiliation Play” | Purple Passion

Why do people get off on being embarrassed or humiliated? Is this a style of play you’ve struggled to understand? Do you want to understand how to do this well and avoid disasters? What are the potential psychological ramifications? What’s different for a one-time scene vs. playing with your life partner? Emphasizing emotional safety throughout, Midori will explore a wide range of play from light teasing and embarrassment to serious humiliation. What’s the difference between a healthy and constructive scene and one that is destructive and harmful? She will share with you a unique model she’s developed to better understand and create an experience that is hot for all the players involved. Are you trying to better understand this difficult subject? Have you questioned yourself on your desires or ability to make another squirm? Or have you ever secretly wanted to be put on the spot or shown how really naughty you are? Then this class is for you! All attendees get 15% store discount before and after the workshop

Info/purchase tickets: http://bit.ly/Iwkesk

Sat 4/28 – Sun 4/29     Rope Bondage Dojo® | The LGBT Center

Are you SERIOUS about improving your rope bondage skills?
Do you want to erotically please and sexually pleasure your partner using rope?
Do you want to learn how to be a better bottom or receiver of rope pleasures?
Ready to get to the next level of education?
Do you want to do safer rope suspension bondage the right way?
If so, you’ll love Rope Bondage Dojo®.
It’s designed with a multi-skill level layered education style to create an exceptional learning experience for both experienced and novice players.
In two days, your rope skills will improve dramatically through16 hours of concentrated, personalized and hands-on education by Midori and DeLano, two of the best instructors around. It’s a weekend-long immersion and training course unlike any other!

Pre-registration required.

More info/register: www.ropedojo.com

PHILADELPHIA  

A Weekend with Midori | Sexploratorium & AxD Gallery

Fri 4/20. 7pm         “JoyStick Secrets: How to Thrill a Man”
Sat 4/21. 2pm         “Hands-on Rope Bondage”
Sat 4/21. 5pm         “Rope Body Harnes”
Sun 4/22. 1pm         “Flogging: Amazing Hands-on Training”
Sun 4/22. 4pm         “Art of Feminine Dominance”

Info: http://passion101classes.com/

BALTIMORE

Mon 4/23  “Art of Feminine Dominance” | Sugar

Elegance, power and confidence. Do you want to know hot to be a dominant without being a bad cliche? How do you find a sexy style of erotic dominance that’s authentic to you? Using a special technique she developed, Midori will help you to find your inner power femme archetype, allowing you to pursue erotic fulfillment of sensual power play. Not your typical how to class, you’ll discover the difference between constructive and destructive desires and point you towards ways of bringing satisfaction in bedroom play for both you and your partner.Midori will share with you her secrets of the feminine art of dominance. She will discuss the psychology, practical exercises, techniques, fashion, how to discover what makes your partner weak-kneed and more. This class is not limited to a gender, but for all who harbor the powerful woman within! Something for everyone from the novice to the experienced player. All genders and partners welcome.

Info/Tickets: http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/225508

ABOUT MIDORI

Midori is a renowned educator and writer on sexuality. Dubbed “the super nova of kink” by Dan Savage, she emerged from the Sex Positive Movement in San Francisco in the early 1990’s, soon becoming a much sought after international presenter on sexuality, personal fulfillment and kinky adventures. While considered a pivotal figure in the Leather and BDSM communities, she is also seen as a critic, activist and agent provocateur.

Her reputation as authority and leading expert on alternative pleasures stem not only from her unique and entertaining process of teaching concrete skills, but in her ability to deconstruct and distill complex matters of desire into surprisingly accessible lessons with eloquence and humanity. She’s known for tackling challenging topics with fresh and relevant insights. She calls this her “head-heart-hands” method to create a space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Fundamentally she is motivated by helping people to create authentic and intimate relationships while emphasizing self actualization, shame reduction, acceptance and justice.

Her writing is extensive, ranging from numerous articles, columns, works of fiction, to instructional books. In 2001, she wrote the first English language book on Shibari, “The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” when Japanese rope play was still limited to a niche audience. Her other major books to this date include “Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink” and “Master Han’s Daughter.”

In 2001 she founded Rope Bondage Dojo®. She has trained many cadres and still leads many Dojos each year. Later she formed ForteFemme, a unique women’s dominance weekend training and empowerment intensive.

Beyond her role as an educator, she’s a passionate artist exploring the fringes of desire and identity. Exhibiting and performing internationally, she has also presented as artist in resident at Das Arts (Netherlands) and Tanzquartier Wien (Austria). She is often caught committing acts of installations, performances, sculpture, photography and general art pranks.

Born and raised in Japan, she served in the US Army while earning her psychology degree from University of California, Berkeley. She now calls San Francisco her home, which she shares with her wonderful spouse and severely spoiled four legged furry beings. Learn more about her projects at www.PlanetMidori.com and her art at www.Ranshin.com.

Dirty Queer Sex Virtual Tour

Sinclair Sexsmith presents a cornucopia of queer kink—tantalizing tales rich in variety and saucy details of girls put in their place—and held there firmly. Whether readers dream of surrendering to a lover or of taking control, Say Please offers plenty of erotic inspiration and gives readers exactly what they want! Come hear authors from the book read their stories and celebrate the release of this kinky queer collection.

Where:  Bluestockings, 172 Allen Street (bet. Stanton & Rivington), Lower East Side, NYC

Featuring Dusty Horn, DL King, Vie La Guerre, Sassafras Lowrey, Miriam Zoila Pérez, Elizabeth Thorne, and Xan West, hosted by Sinclair Sexsmith, writer of the Sugarbutch Chronicles and editor of Say Please & Best Lesbian Erotica 2012.

Sinclair Sexsmith runs the award-winning personal online writing project Sugarbutch Chronicles: The Gender, and Relationship Adventures of a Kinky Queer Butch Top at sugarbutch.net. With work published in various anthologies and websites, including Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica, she is the guest editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012, and her first full-length erotica anthology, Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, will be published by Cleis Press in April 2012. Mr. Sexsmith writes, teaches, and performs focusing on the subjects of sex, gender, and relationships. More information on her at mrsexsmith.com.

ABOUT THE READERS

Dusty Horn’s erotica has been published by Cleis in Orgasmic and Best Bondage 2011, her sex culture reportage on CarnalNation.com, and her critical theory of sex work in AORTA magazine. A BDSM professional, queer pornographer, kink educator, social worker, and rocknroll exhibitionist slut, Dusty is (in)famous for her spanking booths.

Editor of Carnal Machines, Spank, The Sweetest Kiss, and Where the Girls Are, D.L. King has contributed short stories to Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Women’s Erotica, Girl Crazy, and Broadly Bound, among others. She’s published two novels and edits the erotica review site Erotica Revealed. Find her at www.dlkingerotica.com.

Vie La Guerre is a femme wordsmith who lives in Chicago with her kittens, Foxy Brown and Zora.

Sassafras Lowrey (www.PoMoFreakshow.com) is an international award–winning storyteller, author, artist, and educator. Sassafras is the editor of the Kicked Out anthology, which brought together the voices of current and former homeless LGBTQ youth. Her prose has been included in numerous anthologies and she regularly teaches LGBTQ storytelling workshops at colleges and conferences across the country. Sassafras lives in Brooklyn, New York, with her family.

Miriam Zoila Pérez (www.miriamzperez.com) is a Cuban-American writer, blogger, and reproductive justice activist. She is the founder of RadicalDoula.com and an editor at Feministing.com. Her essays have been included in various anthologies, including Persistence: All Ways Butch and Femme. Pérez lives in Brooklyn.

Elizabeth Thorne began writing erotic stories when she was working in a place known as The Sex Lab. It was an act of desperation since, ironically enough, studying sex kept her too busy to meet anyone larger than a mouse… and unlike Cinderella she doesn’t actually swing that way. These days, Elizabeth spends her time sitting around in her PJs writing popular science during the day and erotic romance at night. She has contributed to more than a dozen anthologies of erotica and erotic romance and is proud to be the author of “The Gingerbread Dungeon,” a collection of pansexual BDSM fairy tales. You can find her online at withbatedbeth.com.

Xan West is the pseudonym of an NYC BDSM/sex educator. Xan’s “First Time Since” won honorable mention for the 2008 NLA John Preston Short Fiction Award. Xan has appeared in many anthologies, including Best SM Erotica 2 & 3, Best Women’s Erotica 2008 & 2009, and Best Lesbian Erotica 2011.