August 2009

Where:     Happy Ending Lounge (pink awning says “Xie He Health”)
Address:  302 Broome St., New York, NY 10002
Cost:    FREE

Whether or not you are attending Dark Odyssey Summer Camp, come with or wear something that will make you a happy camper. We can’t promise s’mores, we hope you will be wanting more, more, more.

We’re there the first Wednesday of every month.

The Pleasure Salon has been created to build community, allowing sex-positive activists to cross-pollinate. Our gatherings bring together members of the BDSM, swinger, alternative gender, LGBT, sex-activist, sex educator, nudist, sex-magic, polyamory, Pagan, radical faerie, tantra, dark odyssey, sex-blogger, porn, pervert and sex-worker communities, and others whose passion is sex. (Let us know if we missed any one of you!) Through building networks in the sex-positive community, The Pleasure Salon hopes to help create a sex-positive world. It is a place for the open exchange of ideas and sensual expression.

Join us in building New York’s pleasure positive community, and bring your like-minded friends to this social gathering. The Pleasure Salon embraces respect, acceptance, and non-judgmental support in this public space.

We hope to see you there, Patricia Johnson, Selina Fire & Mark Michaels

SXSW Interactive “features five days of compelling presentations from the brightest minds in emerging technology, scores of exciting networking events hosted by industry leaders and an unbeatable line up of special programs showcasing the best new websites, video games and startup ideas the community has to offer.” I’ve never been there, but it sounds like the ultimate geek fest. Plus I hear the parties and swag are pretty awesome.

The SXSW Panel Picker lets you browse and vote on the 2500+ presentation proposals. SXSW Panel voting ends at the end of the day on Friday, Sept 4th, so you have a little less than a week left to vote. (Update: voting is now closing COB on Monday, September 7th.)

I’ve searched the Panel Picker and listed what I could find of the panels relating to dating, sex, sexuality, social issues, privacy, the adult industry, etc.

If you haven’t yet, go vote. I’m especially interested in the panels Melissa Gira, Lisa Vandever and Nina Hartley (who I know from Dark Odyssey) are proposing, and suggest you vote for them too. Please help send them to to Austin, Texas!

Adult Industry

The Adult Industry and Social Networking (Jay Kopita, YNOT.com)
Future Smut: How To Become An ‘Adult Webmaster’ (Quentin Boyer, TopBucks.com)
The Intersection of Hollywood and Porn (Kathee Brewer, YNOT Network LP)
Nina Hartley: Porn Star, Sex Educator, Social Networker (Nina Hartley, Nina.com)
Not Your Mama’s Porn: Web 2.0 and Women (Jay Kopita, YNOT.com)
Porn’s Future as a Digital Force (Tom Hymes, Daily Babylon)
Working In Adult – The Double Standard (Connor Young, YNOT.com)

Dating  & Relationships
CyberSex2.0: Is Social Networking Ruining Your Sex Life? (Dayna Nicole, UglyNot!)

Social Media Konkatsu (Thomas Edwards, The Professional Wingman)

Privacy
Data Portability for Multiple Identities
Making Sense of Privacy on the Social Web
Social Security: Protecting Your Privacy in Social Media

Sex & Sexuality
An Avatar’s Eye View of Sex in Games (Kathee Brewer, YNOT Network LP)

Engaging The Queer Community (Trish Bendix, MTV/AfterEllen.com )
A discussion on maintaining successful and active blogs and social networking sites that are geared toward the LGBT community and its niches.

Interactive Sex & Love (Stephanie Frasco, AskFrasco – Video Advice)

Negotiating the Parent/Teen Divide Over Social Networking (Karen Rayne, Adolescent Sexuality Today)
Parents are often at odds with their teenagers being on social networking sites. Can these sites please parents and appeal to teens simultaneously? This panel brings parents, teens, and experts together to address this digital divide and offer suggestions on how social networking sites can build a workable bridge.

Professionally Naked: What Women Gain From Exposing Ourselves Online (Melissa Gira, Audacia Ray and Sarah Dopp)
Can you be sexual and professional online, even if sex isn’t your job? However women get naked online – in revealing photos, or in revealing our lives – we draw scrutiny and judgment. From blogging to porn, these panelists push the lines of “respectable” behavior with honesty and success.

Sex Education in a Web 3.0 World (Herbert (Herb) Coleman with panelists Shelby Knox (from The Education of Shelby Knox), Laura Rad (The Smitten Kitten & Sex is Fun) and Heather Corinna (AKA Scarleteen).
This will be a discussion with podcasters, internet based and college sex educators, on the present and future of sex education, the internet and digital technology. The panel will address issues such as countering misinformation, appropriate information for teens and younger, availability of resources, proper and improper use of technology and their own experiences with sex education and social networks.

Social Issues

The Porn Police Are STILL at the Door (Lisa Vandever, Cinekink)
Not just for pornographers, the notion for this panel grew out of our work curating CineKink, as we noticed that entries submitted by filmmakers from the adult sphere typically included notice that federal record-keeping requirements for sexually explicit material had been properly met, while those coming from the independent film world did not. (If you’re thinking “2257, huh?” that could probably be you!)Making matters worse, the regulations have recently been expanded to cover not just actual or documentary depictions of sex, but simulated situations—ie fiction—as well.

Was It Something I Said? TOS And Content (Lisa Vandever, Cinekink)
Meanwhile, this panel was inspired by the frustrations we’ve experienced over the years trying to position and promote a sex-related endeavor on the internet–from finding a web host and sending email blasts, to processing ticket sales and donations, to creating an identity in social marketing and getting our videos placed on popular sites. Seemingly the old adage–“I’ll know it when I see it”–flourishes online, where murky definitions of what content is and is not allowed abound. One gatekeeper’s “inappropriate” is another’s “adult” is another’s “offensive, obscene and/or pornographic.” How are we affected as users and creators–and is there any recourse?

Sex, Drugs and Social Media — What’s Legal, What’s Not? (Adam Metz, METZ Consulting)
Sexting+Nudie Pics = Digital Violence Among Teens (Chloe Gottlieb, R/GA)
South African Sexting, Colombian Cyber-Bullies: Global Virtual Risks (Katherine Maher, UNICEF)

. . .If he stood in the center of the ring, he had the perfect view of her pussy: the tight tangerine fabric clinging to her crotch, the tiny bulge of labia, the occasional wet spot. He was alone, practicing his new act, when she walked in and climbed the ladder to the trapeze. She untied the trapeze, clasped the bar, swung out, and did a number of positions as she swung back and forth. He followed her motions, watching her closely. He held his breath a few times. He had never seen an aerialist practice without a partner. After she climbed down, she smiled at him as she passed by. He wanted to ask her questions. Where was she from? Why was she practicing alone? But all he could do was offer her the banana cream pie he had been spinning on his finger. She dipped her finger in the cream, smelled it, sucked it slowly. Then she disappeared behind the red velvet curtains.

Link

Sabrina Fox and Lobo on meninpain.com

Thursday, August 27
Staten Island Kink Munch
Alphabet Soup

Friday, August 28
Le Cercle des Dommes
DSF: “End of the Summer BDSM Barbeque Party & The Speed Dating Game”

Saturday, August 29

Sunday, August 30
NY Bondage Club
Suspension party

Monday, August 31

Tuesday, September 1
TES“Trans 101” w/ Dr.Lisa O’Connor, MD

Wednesday, September 2
Pleasure Salon
TES Dominant Men/submissive women’s Group: “Vanilla Side of Things”