July 2009

By Jessica Bennett

Terisa Greenan and her boyfriend, Matt, are enjoying a rare day of Seattle sun, sharing a beet carpaccio on the patio of a local restaurant. Matt holds Terisa’s hand, as his 6-year-old son squeezes in between the couple to give Terisa a kiss. His mother, Vera, looks over and smiles; she’s there with her boyfriend, Larry. Suddenly it starts to rain, and the group must move inside. In the process, they rearrange themselves: Matt’s hand touches Vera’s leg. Terisa gives Larry a kiss. The child, seemingly unconcerned, puts his arms around his mother and digs into his meal.

Terisa and Matt and Vera and Larry—along with Scott, who’s also at this dinner—are not swingers, per se; they aren’t pursuing casual sex. Nor are they polygamists of the sort portrayed on HBO’s Big Love; they aren’t religious, and they don’t have multiple wives. But they do believe in “ethical nonmonogamy,” or engaging in loving, intimate relationships with more than one person—based upon the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. They are polyamorous, to use the term of art applied to multiple-partner families like theirs, and they wouldn’t want to live any other way.

Terisa, 41, is at the center of this particular polyamorous cluster. A filmmaker and actress, she is well-spoken, slender and attractive, with dark, shoulder-length hair, porcelain skin—and a powerful need for attention. Twelve years ago, she started datingScott, a writer and classical-album merchant. A couple years later, Scott introduced her to Larry, a software developer at Microsoft, and the two quickly fell in love, with Scott’s assent. The three have been living together for a decade now, but continue to date others casually on the side. Recently, Terisa decided to add Matt, a London transplant to Seattle, to the mix. Matt’s wife, Vera, was OK with that; soon, she was dating Terisa’s husband, Larry. If Scott starts feeling neglected, he can call the woman he’s been dating casually on the side. Everyone in this group is heterosexual, and they insist they never sleep with more than one person at a time.

Link

Harmony, Tia Ling and Felony on whippedass.com

Thursday, July 30
TES Queer Group” “Co-Topping: the whys, wherefores and etiquette of working with couples” w/ Devin MacLachlan

Friday, July 31
TES Spanking Group – Spanking Group Social
TES “Let’s Play Doctor” Party Hosted by Lady Velvet & Mistress Trish
Paradise Lost

Saturday, August 1
LeatherFirst-NYC: “Gnothi Sauton: Know Thyself” w/ Justin John Costello
ClubFEM NYC Party

Sunday, August 2
MAsT Metro NY: “Navigating the Complexities of Gender and Orientation”

Monday, August 3

Tuesday, August 4
TES: “Ginger and Cinnamon Oil and Other Fun Stuff to Play With!” w/ Hawkeye

Wednesday, August 5
TES TEC “Presenting Piper Pony” w/ Thrash AKA Silk the Warhorse
Pleasure Salon

The Cone

by Domina Doll on 07/29/2024

in sex toys, sextoys

the cone

I love to try out new and innovative products and especially those that really break the mold.  Well, the Cone, is certainly such a device.  And, I say device because calling it a sex toy (even though that is its purpose) seems strange.  Needless to say, I have been coveting the Cone since it appeared on the European market.

Unfortunately, unique designs like these (such as the We-Vibe [my review]) take a lot of trial and error, and are usually more of a novel idea than a product that is purely practical.  Now, I don’t want to dissuade you from wanting to try the Cone as it does have many distinctive qualities and thrills that many people will find exciting, orgasmic and practical.

The Cone is a spherical pyramid shape and is about the size and weight of honeydew melon.  It has a huge motor inside that powers 16 speeds / functions with multiple vibration areas that move around it, but center at the peak.  Some of the vibrations feel deep at the core, while others climax at the apex.  There are gentle undulations, rolling “thunder” vibrations, escalating Va-va-vroooms and even a bass drum roll setting that feels like someone is playing percussion on your womb.  Setting 16 is called the Orgasm Button and it osculates between various other settings at maximum power.  The speeds /setting are controlled easily with an on | off button (also the Orgasm Button) and a button to cycle through the settings.

So far so good.

But, how the hell do you use this device as a “sex toy”?  There are several ways you “could” use it and several ways I tried it.  It comes with a little pamphlet with illustrations to give you some idea, but no actual directions, so you are left up to your own creativity.

the cone positions

Positions for the Cone

  • Sit on it on a couch.  Sitting directly on the tip is uncomfortable and can be painful.  But wrapping your labia and thighs around it so it fits snug with the clitoris works well.  The most comfortable position for me.
  • Squat on it.  Unless you want a work-out, this is an exhausting position that will leave your thighs quivering before long.
  • Lay belly down with the Cone between your thighs.  No bad, but I find I can’t breathe on my stomach well, so couldn’t get into it.
  • Stick it to the wall with the suction bottom and press yourself backside against it.  Comfortable if you like standing while you masturbate.  I don’t.
  • Stick to the wall lower and go at it doggie style.  Hard to maneuver this way to get it to reach where you want it to be.
  • Lay back and put the point between your thighs.  Comfortable, but doesn’t stimulate well enough as it can’t reach my spots.
  • Curl up on your side and rest it between the thighs.  Also comfortable, but somewhat fetal.  I like to “open up” when I masturbate.
  • On your back, hand-held like a normal vibe.  Hard on the wrists as it is so heavy and difficult to keep in position.

The Cone can and will stimulate the vulva, clitoris and anus as well as the G-spot indirectly.  Clitorally, it doesn’t pinpoint the sensations enough to stimulate that area well.  Vaginally, it doesn’t penetrate deep enough to stimulate there.  It is good for warming up the vulva and anus area before or during sex with a partner.

The Cone has a lot of power, so should get you off.  However, I found the power was too spread out, rather than precise, to really get me worked up.  After a certain point, I knew it wasn’t going anywhere no matter what setting I tried, Orgasm Button and all.

One thing I do think this would be good for is persons with physical limitations or disabilities, as it is hands-free.  I remember reading about a disabled teenager whose caregiver bought him a vibrator so he could masturbate.  Being hands-free the Cone would most likely do this well, especially since you can sit (almost) on it.  Also, it is designed for men as well as women, so mild anal stimulation (or scrotum) works too.  I think it is also more useful as a stimulation toy for partner sex.

The Cone is an interesting if not orgasmic device and if you like to try new strange things, then check it out at VibeReview.  I’m sure there are many more ways to try to use this thing and what feels orgasmic (or not) to me will be different for you.

. . .As she typed his words she felt him pressing against her, the thickness of his cock meeting the wetness of her sex. He was just waiting, slipping the head in and out a little, holding her hips and pressing her down against the vibrator’s unrelenting buzzing.

“You sound like you’re in a frisky mood. I’m no prude, tell me about your intriguing particulars, please.”

Half of her brain was filled with elation about the text, imagining Todd, the boy she was so smitten with, also being potentially kinky. At the same time she was about to be fucked by Mark. Then there was the vibrator. Then there was the shame — she realized what a slut she was being. Then the embarrassment turning into that white-hot emotional pleasure in her head. At the same time, Mark slipped his cock into her with a smooth slow push.

Mark voice was straining to stay steady. “I like to be spanked.”

“Hard,” he added.

She started typing when the first orgasm came. She screamed into the mattress and balled her fists in the sheets.

“Type the fucking message!” he said, slowing down as she bucked and writhed under him, the vibrator suddenly far too much for her sensitive parts.

“I like to be spanked. Hard.” He repeated the massage and she typed it, her finger lingering over the “send” button.

Link

Location: Dixon Place
316 Chrystie Street, New York NY, 10002 [map]
Tickets: $20 general / $15 students & seniors
Online Tickets: www.hotfestival.org;
https://www.ovationtix.com/trs/cal/171

Sean Dorsey Dance

Sean Dorsey Dance

Kate Bornstein

Kate Bornstein

After taking San Francisco by storm with an extended sold-out run, standing ovations and critical praise, Sean Dorsey’s acclaimed Uncovered: The Diary Project is coming to New York! This one-weekend-only New York performance features a collaboration with and world premiere prologue performance by legendary author, playwright and performance artist Kate Bornstein.

Sean Dorsey (trailblazing transgender choreographer and winner of two Isadora Duncan Dance Awards and the Goldie Award for Performance) and a stellar cast of dancers chase the naked truth in Uncovered: The Diary Project. Using text from actual, real-life diaries, Uncovered’s powerful dances reveal lives and stories that history has tried to erase.

This powerful, highly praised dance theater concert is the culmination of a year-and-a-half long research process in which Dorsey uncovered and researched diaries of transgender and queer people – from the famous to the unknown. Uncovered features ‘Lou,’ a suite of dances based on the lifelong journals of Lou Sullivan (1951-1991), a San Francisco transsexual gay man and pioneering activist; and ‘Lost/Found,’ the story of an imaginary boyhood based on a very real diary. Uncovered offers an evening of full-bodied, powerful dances honoring remarkable life stories.

Uncovered features an outstanding cast of performers: Sean Dorsey, Brian Fisher, Juan de la Rosa, Nol Simonse and special guest Kate Bornstein. Kate Bornstein is an author, playwright and performance artist whose latest book is “Hello, Cruel World: 101 Alternatives To Suicide For Teens, Freaks, and Other Outlaws.” Other published works include the ground-breaking books “Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us;” and “My Gender Workbook.” All three books are now taught in over 150 colleges and universities around the world. Kate performs, lectures, and facilitates workshops at college campuses, theaters and performance spaces across North America, Europe, and Australia. Kate is currently working on a memoir – “Kate Bornstein Is A Queer And Pleasant Danger” – due for a 2010 release by Seven Stories Press.