…In a Stiletto Relationship, what you feel is an addicting mix of love, lust, and pain.
Although you know on some level that “the mix” is toxic – and making you feel crazy – it’s incredibly hard to get that person, and the relationship, out of your system.
Why is that?
One of my favorite theories about what makes these relationships so addicting – other than sexual chemistry – is that the “stiletto lover” we get drawn to taps into a dark, exhilarating part of us.
When that part of us gets liberated, an adrenalin rush comes along with any fear, or sense that we’ve lost control. And that adrenalin rush helps us forget temporarily about the pain that will inevitably follow. It can even trick us into believing that the relationship is getting healthier. (more. . .)
