Margaret Cho: You Don’t Belong
Nov 8th, 2024 by Viviane
Margaret Cho blogs about her experience at Bette Midler’s Hulaween benefit, when she and transgendered friend Ian Harvie went to the ladies’ room:
Tags: MySpace, transgenderThen we both had to go to the bathroom. There was a huge line snaking out of the ladies room, and as soon as we got in it, there was yelling. An older woman, in half a pirate costume, who was putting on her pants on a settee just inside the doorway screamed out “Hey!! There’s a man in here! You’re in the wrong room!!!!” The women were all looking at us. Ian smiled at her and turned, pointing to his chest, indicating that he was indeed in the right room. The woman wouldn’t let up. “Well, you look like a man to me…” As she continued to grumble and put her other leg into her pants, another woman came up. “I know you!!!! You are at my table!!! So what is this about?!” as she said it, she leaned in and grabbed Ian’s chest! Then she said, “Hey!!! That’s pretty good!” and then went back in with BOTH hands!!! Ian said, “Wow…look at you! Just grabbing away!”
i have *never* understood this kind of behavior.
i use the pronoun that’s appropriate to how you’re dressed, how is any other way going to make sense?
and sexed restrooms is kind of stupid anyway
Isn’t it incredible how tactless and insensitive that woman was? I have never in my life tried to use ‘the squeeze test’ to see if someone belonged in a bathroom. In fact, the only time I might question if someone belongs in a bathroom is if I thought they looked like they were trying to get… um… gratified by it, and then I’d tell them to wank on their own time, not mine.