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violet blue interview by Thomas Roche (ErosGuide SF)
Jan 24th, 2024 by Viviane
When not writing best-selling sex ed books, editing best-selling erotic anthologies and hobnobbing with San Francisco’s literati, Violet Blue explores the razor’s edge between sex and technology.
One of the first people to enter the erotic podcasting world with her insanely popular Open Source Sex, Violet also rips porn a new one on a regular basis on the smartest pornblog around, Fleshbot, and on her personal blog at her website Tiny Nibbles. That wildly entertaining blog covers everything from programming to perversion, sex to switchblades, Berettas to bukkake, expanding on Violet’s work in books and podcasts, on camera, and with outlaw machine-arts troupe Survival Research Laboratories.
Eros Zine: Your best-known books are probably The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus and The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio. Why is good oral sex so important?
Violet Blue: It’s not so much that good oral sex is important — and it is very important — but more that oral sex is a topic that lots of people have questions about, and until the books came out there were few places to find accurate answers. Most sex books just glaze over oral sex (especially cunnilingus) and never really explain how to do it, why it feels good and how to make it hot for both the giver and the receiver.
I still hear female “sex experts” (like Erica Jong in Inside Deep Throat) claim that women derive no pleasure from fellatio, which is crazy-untrue. And people have all kinds of questions like how to deep throat, how to control when and where a man ejaculates, what to do when going down on a woman to bring her to orgasm, and just what to expect in terms of taste and smell and appearance of genitals. Answering these questions gives people the tools they need to become really good at oral sex (along with lots of techniques, which I provide by the dozen).
Because you’re face-to-face with the most personal and private part of a person during oral sex, you need to have your questions answered in order to relax and have fun — and get off. Oral sex is taboo, oral sex is hot; I’m not surprised the books have done so well.
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