Josey Vogels

Another year, another sex scandal. Wait a minute. 2005 was decidedly lacking in sex scandals. No interns smoking the president’s “cigar,” no Tommy and Pam or Paris and, er, who was that guy again? Not even a measly exposed nipple to get us into a flap.

But that doesn’t mean 2005 was lacking in sexual high. and lowlights. So here they are: MMB’s 2005 awards for the best and worst in sex.

Greatest legal victory that moves gay people closer to being almost as boring as straights: the legalization of gay marriage. Don’t get me wrong, from a human rights perspective, of course, homosexuals should have just as much right to marry as heterosexuals. That’s a no-brainer. But I still have to wonder why gay people, usually so ahead of the fashion curve, would want so badly to get in on such an increasingly unfashionable institution.

Best social trend that moves heterosexuals closer to being almost as fun as homosexuals: the changing face of monogamy. Former Nerve columnists Em & Lo describe how complicated “living happily ever after” has become in last month’s New York Magazine cover story: “The new monogamy: Until death do us part – except every other Friday.” According to the story, more and more couples are custom designing monogamy to fit their own needs, maturely negotiating everything from open relationships to maybe a lap dance for your partner here or a threesome there. Is this a sign of a more permanent evolution, or is it only a matter of time before the pendulum swings back and good old-fashioned monogamy, and cheating, is once again de rigueur?

Most telling statement made by an American television network executive in a meeting to discuss the development of a new TV show about sex: “Sex is out, relationships are in.”

Best porn that isn’t really porn: Made in Secret: The Story of the East Van Porn Collective is a “documentary” about an anarcho-feminist porn collective that wanted to make porn they actually liked. Only the collective didn’t really exist until they started making the documentary and realized they needed a collective to document, and there was no porn except for the porn they had to make in order to make the documentary about them making porn. Yes, it’s a complicated, brilliant, multilayered piece of film that has you questioning your beliefs about sex, porn, representation and whether one can really make such a thing as “smart” porn. Check out more at www.eastvanporncollective.org.

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